Word to the wise: "undecided" is often woman code for "I want children, but since you don't (but I think you might change your mind), I'll say "undecided" to keep it from breaking our relationship." She may feel pretty damn sure you'll change your mind eventually, but doesn't want to scare you. Is that a possibility, you think?
That sounds very true. I was thinking myself that she doesn't want to cause problems by stubbornly insisting on yes. But she doesn't want to say no and close the door on it forever. She's keeping the door open by being "undecided" on the issue.
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If you're uncertain what's the problem with her being uncertain too? I would think that would be nice.
Originally Posted by entropie
+ word for men saying "I dont want them at the moment due to financial issues" can mean they are afraid to take that much responsibility.
Originally Posted by phoenity
Yep. It could be fear of responsibility.
It could also be lack of joy in raising a child.
That's how I would take it too, which is a shame, because I think there are some men who actually mean that they want children later when they say it. It's difficult for a woman to tell the difference between the two kinds of men.
Also, not wanting kids is a deal breaker for some people, and it's unappreciated when people aren't upfront about that. One of my best friends got trapped with a guy who is 25 years older than her who didn't tell her until after they were married that he didn't want anymore kids (he has 2, she has none). She went into a deep depression and hasn't came out yet. It's been 3 years.
i'm a he btw, and The Dark Knight is actually a very good film, I suggest you go see it
.. That's why i said he/she .. I didn't want to speculate.
I don't want to see the film. Why? All becuase of the Heath Ledger is the greatest thing since sliced bread. Give it a year or two and i may possibly consider it.
I don't follow .. I lead.
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