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    Quote Originally Posted by BerberElla View Post
    She is female though, and the OP's ISFJ is male, I could see the traditional part of an isfj enjoying a man providing for her in a mans role, so very much appreciating it if he put up a shelf for her, an isfj male I would assume would have a different desire.
    Hahaha! That is so funny that you say that because I just moved into this new apartment a month ago and so far he has built my bed, built my bookshelf, fixed my flat iron, fixed my sunglasses, changed a light bulb that was too high for me to reach (I'm 5'2", he's 6'5")... I LOVE it and I always gush about how impressed I am that he can do that. It's weird because I'm not used to not being the dominant one in the relationship (I was previously with an ISFP and an INTJ). I wonder if when two personalities get together, one of them naturally becomes dominant and it is predictable...
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    Quote Originally Posted by KarenParker View Post
    It's weird because I'm not used to not being the dominant one in the relationship (I was previously with an ISFP and an INTJ). I wonder if when two personalities get together, one of them naturally becomes dominant and it is predictable...
    Hmm, it must depend on which type is with the ISFJ, because there's no question I'm the dominant one. Not that I used to think of myself as a 'dominant' person.
    I think that's why my ISFJ was 'seduced' by me. Actually he said right at the start that my independence attracted him, so there's an example.
    I was honestly just my normal, annoying self. He said I was "charming", which is the exact inverse of most people's opinion of me!
    He seems to be attracted to 'strong women' in general, and likes to be useful, of service. I've never really gone for men like that, but it's definitely my best match - no real arguments as yet, after 3 years together. Makes a change.

    I've heard that ISFJs like someone strong with a hint of vulnerability, possibly that other people might not notice - they like to be needed, and to help in a private behind-the-scenes kind of way. That's probably true.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shadow View Post
    Hmm, it must depend on which type is with the ISFJ, because there's no question I'm the dominant one. Not that I used to think of myself as a 'dominant' person.
    I think that's why my ISFJ was 'seduced' by me. Actually he said right at the start that my independence attracted him, so there's an example.
    I was honestly just my normal, annoying self. He said I was "charming", which is the exact inverse of most people's opinion of me!
    He seems to be attracted to 'strong women' in general, and likes to be useful, of service. I've never really gone for men like that, but it's definitely my best match - no real arguments as yet, after 3 years together. Makes a change.

    I've heard that ISFJs like someone strong with a hint of vulnerability, possibly that other people might not notice - they like to be needed, and to help in a private behind-the-scenes kind of way. That's probably true.
    Over the weekend my ISFJ met an ISTJ friend of mine and they instantly became best friends! They seemed to have a lot in common and a really good understanding of each other. I think ISFJ/ISTJ is a good team.
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    Quote Originally Posted by KarenParker View Post
    Over the weekend my ISFJ met an ISTJ friend of mine and they instantly became best friends! They seemed to have a lot in common and a really good understanding of each other. I think ISFJ/ISTJ is a good team.
    Yeah, my ENFP friend is dating an ISFJ girl and he came up last weekend and I met her. It was like an instant connection... the wierdest thing in the world that I have never experienced before. It was so weird.

    I'm convinced now I need to find an ISFJ.

    As for seducing them, I would agree with the others. Put yourself in a position where you need to be helped and don't be afraid to ask them to help you.
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    For guys, be strong and confident in your approach (straight posture, commanding eye contact, neatly dressed & groomed). Show her you are a provider. Then flirt on the female ISFJ. ISFJ's memorize the little details of life that an ENFP misses. Get her to talk about the details of something she loves.

    Switch the genders, hmm. Not sure, since I know one ISFJ man. I think they are attracted to very kindhearted women.

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    I was going to post something, but my mom is an ISFJ, and I just keep getting creeped out by this thread.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jewelchild View Post
    I was going to post something, but my mom is an ISFJ, and I just keep getting creeped out by this thread.
    Stop being such a girl! This is pertinent information we're talking about!
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    Quote Originally Posted by d@v3 View Post
    Stop being such a girl! This is pertinent information we're talking about!
    Oh, I'm sorry ... did you want me to think about how someone might go about seducing my mother? *shudder*

    And Dave, friend ... girls are ... fantabulous. Sent straight from the heavens like a beam of radiant light to warm and brighten your dark, cold world. That's right.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jewelchild View Post
    Oh, I'm sorry ... did you want me to think about how someone might go about seducing my mother? *shudder*
    Okay, point taken. But can't we pleeez come to some kind of compromise Maybe uhh.... you have an ISFJ friend?

    Quote Originally Posted by Jewelchild View Post
    And Dave, friend ... girls are ... fantabulous. Sent straight from the heavens like a beam of radiant light to warm and brighten your dark, cold world. That's right.
    They are? .....Explain!
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    Quote Originally Posted by d@v3 View Post
    Okay, point taken. But can't we pleeez come to some kind of compromise Maybe uhh.... you have an ISFJ friend?
    I know a couple ISFJ's, but not very well. They really like baking and interior decorating and stuff I'm horrible at and find boring. :sad: They're great at it, though. All the SFJ's I know well besides my mom are extroverts.

    Quote Originally Posted by d@v3 View Post
    They are? .....Explain!
    If you need me to explain this to you, I'm going to instead advise that you run out and get yourself a woman as fast as possible. An ISFJ, yes? I don't have much useful advice, but I'll definitely be cheering you on. I'll stop blathering in this thread now, since I have nothing much to offer those who need information on how to seduce an ISFJ.
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