I've noticed several STJs refer to having no sympathy for people who cry to get attention. Is this really common in your experience? I don't think I could even fill up one hand with people I have known who do that. Is there some kind of inherent suspicion about cry-ers trying to manipulate you? (I tried spelling it the other way, but that looked like town criers.) Perhaps there is a general misunderstanding of the real reason the person is crying.
What kind of emotional responses do you feel that you may instigate by using more direct actions? In my parents' case, my dad will just empty the garbage way more and do the dishes when they've had a misunderstanding. This feels like trying to pay for something at the gas station with a side of beef. Beef is great, it's worth money, it's certainly better than driving away without paying anything, and there's nothing like a good roast, but they don't take that currency there. Some people will be willing to accept that you tried to make them feel better, but in some cases, something more direct is needed and you may instigate more emotional responses using the indirect manner.
I'm not saying that indirect actions are not appreciated and noted. I just wonder if sometimes something more needs to happen.