I did face this when I was young. I, as well as everyone else I knew, mistook it for arrogance, but I'm not so sure in retrospect. It may have simply been a lack of a filter. I think it took me most of my adolescence to learn to think about others' feelings before I spoke. A lot of people face this, and sometimes they handle it with white lies, but I'm still averse to lying. Therefore, here's what I've learned to do, with sensitive people.Also-Very young ESTJs-and even myself when in Te mode-can be a bit blunt, and well, sometimes appear rude. Did you face this when very young and if so, how long did it take to learn to be more smooth in delivery? Do you find certain communication techniques to be more useful when dealing with sensitive individuals?
Friend: "Does this dress make me look fat?"
What the friend wants me to say: "No, you look fabulous."
What I want to say: "Yes, it does."
What I say: "It's not the most figure-flattering dress I've seen on you. Maybe we should look for something that puts more of an emphasis on your waist."
In other words... since I've gotten more mature, I've learned the value of diplomatic language.
Also, you've probably noticed that the way I communicate online is very... deliberate. That's another way I make sure that people aren't offended by things I say/write. I take precautions. I'm careful.