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    Why is her 'friend' answering?? If any of my friends did that....:steam: Something is fishy here. Was his reply "friendly" or possessive?
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    Aww... We aren't ALL like that!

    Honestly, I have NO idea what that's all about. I wish I could help, but I just can't wrap my head around it! I mean, I had thought that ESTJs were into self-sufficiency, and yet this one you're talking about is getting a guy to do all her work for her. How hard is it to answer a text? I feel your pain.

    Do you have any more details that could be helpful?
    Quote Originally Posted by Nørrsken impersonating EJCC
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    Quote Originally Posted by fill View Post
    It's neither friendly nor possessive; it's just a plain answer. Something like: "She says she doesn't know."

    If I had the low conscience to do it, I'd text him back with: "Did I text you? No? Then don't fucking reply to me."

    Beh, forget it. I'll try and find an ENFP that doesn't try to bullshit me.
    Do you know or have you met this person before? Do you know anything about said guy? I wouldn't jump to conclusions. However, from the tone of your last post it seems that this was the last straw for you...what are some other examples of her bullshit?

    The ESTJ I have contact with always seems to need to have these orbiting but adoring people around him. Maybe to boost his ego? I have no clue. It's something I have noticed and called his attention to. He has never commented on it. (Of course).
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    Hey that's something I've seen too!

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    Well that was random. She just popped in my room and we started making plans for tonight.

    Uh... Haha.
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    Well, I hope things work out. Although, your ESTJ situation sounds a lot like mine. I'm not saying they don't have awesome points but their weaknesses are just sooo inadvertently hurtful. Be careful with this one. They always seem to know when you're pulling away...then they do just enough to reel you back in...and the cycle continues. I don't know.

    If you are a logical thinker, then they can snow you with Te...make sure you aren't just using a logical premise to make decisions concerning ESTJ because that's what they rely on. Don't get me wrong...I love ESTJ's and I love the one I have close contact with but unless they're ready to deal with themselves and loved ones in their life in a mature way...it's back and forth
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    Things are working out great, actually. (I deleted some posts; I'm not proud of them) And when I thought about it, I realized that she wasn't stable at the time of my complaints, and that I couldn't judge her. The friend texting back thing was actually because she didn't have any left on her plan, but I still did feel a bit hurt that her friend, not I, was the one who got to have her feelings poured out to in the situation (I'm a counselor, dammit! Come to me for advice!). But I'm not now. Because that guy's just a friend.

    ...And I was never just a friend to her. I can see why she would feel embarrassed talking about a break up with a guy she likes.

    So, EJCC, I'm wondering if your actions in the situation would be similar?
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    If I didn't have any minutes left on my plan, and I had to text somebody, then yeah, I would probably either ask someone to text them for me, or I would borrow their phone and say "Hi, this is EJCC on ___'s phone..." or whatever.

    And about her "pouring out her feelings"... how do you know she poured them out at all? Did the friend tell you that she did? Because if it were me, I'm not sure if I would talk about it at all. To anyone. Except maybe one or two people (including my mom).

    And MDP2525...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nørrsken impersonating EJCC
    It's strange. I keep banning morons, but they keep signing up? What is this?
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    want to ask me something? go for it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by EJCC View Post
    And about her "pouring out her feelings"... how do you know she poured them out at all?
    That's a really good point. I actually don't know that at all, and who knows what happened- at this point I don't think it matters.

    Thanks for the help!
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    No problem!
    Quote Originally Posted by Nørrsken impersonating EJCC
    It's strange. I keep banning morons, but they keep signing up? What is this?
    ESTJ - LSE - ESTj (mbti/socionics)
    1w2/7w6/3w4 so/sx (enneagram)
    lawful good (D&D) / ravenclaw + wampus (HP) / boros legion (M:TG)
    conscientious > sensitive > serious (oldham)
    want to ask me something? go for it!

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