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    Quote Originally Posted by andresimon View Post
    I meant, do you resent others, because you have to do it that way as opposed to coming out strait out.
    Are you, calm and collected around people you know, or more direct?
    How do you treat guests in your home? Is treating guests well, important to you?
    1. Sure, it can irritate me in the moment. It demands extra work on my part to get the desired result. It's like having the option of escalator or stairs but you've got to take the stairs.
    2. Those aren't opposites, so I'm not sure I'll answer your question the way you might hope.

    Am I calm and collected around people I know?

    Ehhh...it depends. I tend to express more Ne with people I know, which can make me appear more energetic at times.

    But on the whole, I guess we could round to a yes. I'm not emotionally all over the place when I'm with people I know.

    Am I more direct?

    Yes. I am more direct with people I know because I know what they can handle.

    I tend to be more polite around strangers because I don't know the limits I'm dealing with.

    3. I don't have people over to my place. I'm a really bad host, so I avoid that issue. I'm not even kidding on this. Last person I had over to my place was probably five years ago.

    If I'm in a situation where I had guests, I would treat them to the best of my ability. I don't really see a reason not to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EJCC View Post
    Hey all! I made this thread in response to a few things:

    1. My experience with the rampant misconceptions about ESTJs that so many members have here (based on very limited personal experience, if any),
    2. Loads of random people on TypoC asking me questions about the ESTJs in their lives, because I'm one of the only semi-actively-posting ESTJs here, and
    3. All the people who want me (and the other ESTJs here) to try to make a difference on this site.

    Here's the idea: if anybody has any questions that only an ESTJ can answer (and please, no spamming!), do so here. I'll do my best to help you out. Also, I reqest that other ESTJs help out on this thread here too. This doesn't have to be a one-woman battle! But you obviously shouldn't feel obligated to help out if you don't want to. I can do this on my own if necessary.

    EDIT: Don't be afraid to post here! I won't bite.

    So here I am. Questions, anyone?
    How will an ESTJ react when an ex brings up the idea of being friends?

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    Quote Originally Posted by marblecake1810 View Post
    How will an ESTJ react when an ex brings up the idea of being friends?
    Depends on the maturity of the ESTJ. Depends on how the breakup went. Depends on a lot of things.

    I'd go for it though. Worst case scenario, you wait a bit and try again later. Maybe after 3-6 months.
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    Coriolis: "Is that the ESTJ Serenity Prayer?"

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    People who are currently in relationships with ESTJs, or who have been in relationships with ESTJs in the past: What is that appealed to you about your ESTJ, initially? What drew you them?
    EJCC: "The Big Questions in my life right now: 1) What am I willing to live with? 2) What do I have to live with? 3) What can I change for the better?"
    Coriolis: "Is that the ESTJ Serenity Prayer?"

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    lawful good (D&D) / ravenclaw + wampus (HP) / boros legion (M:TG)
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    want to ask me something? go for it!

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    So ESTJ, why do you attack with frothy foam coming from your mouth?

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    Quote Originally Posted by chubber View Post
    So ESTJ, why do you attack with frothy foam coming from your mouth?
    Gross. We don't ALL have rabies. #notallESTJs
    EJCC: "The Big Questions in my life right now: 1) What am I willing to live with? 2) What do I have to live with? 3) What can I change for the better?"
    Coriolis: "Is that the ESTJ Serenity Prayer?"

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    Quote Originally Posted by EJCC View Post
    Gross. We don't ALL have rabies. #notallESTJs
    That's good to know. My imagination inserted the the foam part. But they do seem to want to micromanage. This is where the attack comes from. Do you get told by therapists to try and live in the moment?

    Edit: bonus question, how does one get on their good side while being themselves?

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    Quote Originally Posted by chubber View Post
    That's good to know. My imagination inserted the the foam part. But they do seem to want to micromanage. This is where the attack comes from.
    It's not micromanaging for its own sake. It's micromanaging because they don't always trust others to do what they're supposed to do.

    Do you get told by therapists to try and live in the moment?
    No, actually.

    Edit: bonus question, how does one get on their good side while being themselves?
    Show them that you're competent, reliable, and worthy of respect.
    EJCC: "The Big Questions in my life right now: 1) What am I willing to live with? 2) What do I have to live with? 3) What can I change for the better?"
    Coriolis: "Is that the ESTJ Serenity Prayer?"

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    lawful good (D&D) / ravenclaw + wampus (HP) / boros legion (M:TG)
    conscientious > sensitive > serious (oldham)
    want to ask me something? go for it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by EJCC View Post
    It's not micromanaging for its own sake. It's micromanaging because they don't always trust others to do what they're supposed to do.


    No, actually.


    Show them that you're competent, reliable, and worthy of respect.
    So the biggest problem is trust?

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