That was the funniest thing I read in a while. Marvelous!Oh yeah. Someone asked me about that earlier in the thread, and I was familiar enough with it that I had the internal script memorized:
After bandaging his wounds, I explained it to him and he apologized. He said he thought that's how I felt because that's how he would feel. But he listened...even though he said he was partially right...*grumbles*.Oh jeez. My first instinct would have been to say that you should prove it to him logically and with evidence, but if he's presuming to know your own feelings better than you do... hmm.
Well, here's a possibility. Because of their Fi, ESTJs are used to trying to reduce their feelings into something that's easy to explain rationally, if they know that they'll have to explain their feelings to someone. (For example, if something huge and intense happened, and you know that everyone in your social circle is going to want to know, concisely and without a lot of drama, "how it went", the ESTJ will have to have an answer ready. Plus the ESTJ would want that summary anyway, in order to take their chaotic feelings and be able to reflect on them and move on from them in a concise and logical way.) So, maybe if you were to make like an Fi-user and explain, in detail, the logic of your feelings?
Wow, sounds like that worked out pretty much perfectly! How'd he get beaten up/How'd he figure out that he was projecting?
This was valuable anyway because it explains how he is trying to handle his feelings. He wanted me to send him some information on our family (we are distant cousins) and I thought it was a little strange that he should bring this up out of nowhere. He said that he needed to use his energy in positive ways and working on his family history was a good way. It also explains why he was trying to tell me that I needed something to feel good bad, no matter how small.
He is a remarkable person...I love how you guys break these stereotypes about SJs. Awesome to see.