Yes, I definitely believe that. We're not that great at making the first move. The risk is scary - scarier for us than for others because we generally don't like any risks. This can kind of be a disadvantage, especially since many types that might be attracted to ESTJs would be shy about that sort of thing, too.Oh, and someone asked before, INTPatricia I think, about how a male ESTJ may act when interested. I can only speak for myself and my past situation. I made the first contact to talk to him. If you talk to him as a friend - you'll get a friend. I had to put it out there first and flirt with him. Once I did that, we had this really great back and forth flirty bantering and the rest was history. He pursued me after that.