but there's something that keeps coming up where we both don't understand the other. Here's an example of a situation that actually happened.
We are bringing in groceries to his apartment. We just picked up a couple items, not a big shopping day. I set my two item bag down (milk and coffee creamer) on the counter while he is in front of the fridge unloading his bag. I leave and turn on the TV and begin watching. He sits down and I can tell he's miffed. He tells me that he put the milk away but my coffee creamer is still out on the counter.
I roll my eyes, don't say anything, but get up to put the creamer away. He tells me to sit back down that he was teaching me a lesson. I tell him matter of fact that no, he's being a jerk. He's kind of shocked that I said that and says that he "doesn't understand me" and "what's going to happen when we live together? Am I going to do this kind of thing then?"
This is sort of a common thing. The "what's going to happen when I do *generic thing* in *some future time*" It happens when he gets upset about something but I really hate it. I don't know how to answer that sort of thing and I told him it wasn't fair to even ask it. Like, IDK! I also told him that the things he complains about are really small things (he says he realizes that) and you know, pick your battles. I wouldn't be bothered by any of the stuff that bothers him but I realize we are different.
I tell him that in the future, if he needs any assistance from me, he only needs to ask for it. But I get that he wants me to like, read his mind and just *do* it but IDK. What bothers him doesn't make sense to me. I also think this is something more than what he's telling me. Maybe you can help me out here.