My ESTJ is finally coming out of his "dark time". He said that while things could still use improvement, they were much better. He also said that he was overreacting to the frustration of not being able to fix what he consider to be non-concrete problems/issues. I don't know if he has solved them as so much realigned his perspective to say, "Look--things could be far, far worse. Is this bad? Sure. But you've got this, that, and the other, so you need to keep that in mind when you think things are so awful." I dunno...like he's made a choice to be happy? Not sure how to put it.What inspired that question? I ask because it's a very interesting one.
I've got it: "Let me be happy and grateful for the good things that I have and not make such a big deal out of the bad things."
Sound about right to you? If that's the case, I sure do envy that! I always, always see the bad stuff first and the positive things not so much at times.
I said it out of nowhere. He was surprised but sounded very, very pleased. I don't say those kinds of things lightly and I didn't want to freak him out saying that cuz it's a little emotion (well...to me anyway). He's coming out of the dark and I just wanted to let him know that I was here--good and bad times. He said he'd remember and not use it carelessly. That pleased me.Hm... I think it sort of depends. If it's said to me when I'm in a vulnerable situation, then it's incredibly comforting and nice. We care so much about being the grounded ones in the relationship, that it's nice to be reminded that we have someone to lean on, too. But if it's said out of nowhere, then it might surprise or bewilder me more than anything else.