Regarding "making learning fun": It depended on the class, for me. When I was in grade school (up to 12th grade), I did so consistently well in every class (regardless of whether I liked it) that I wouldn't be motivated enough to be annoyed by those sorts of things. My standards for myself were the same as the standard for an A in a class, so if it didn't take much to get an A, I wouldn't expect to work very hard, and I wouldn't be very motivated to work hard. (You can tell I wasn't challenged in school... lol. College is a lot harder!) So, I'd come to chem class and hear that we would be watching a (cool but irrelevant) NOVA special, and I'd think "Sweet! NOVA is an awesome show! And it's an excuse not to do classwork!"Things I don't like: GROUP PROJECTS (I seem to always get stuck with people who are stupid and/or lazy) and activities that are supposed to ~make learning fun~. (I can't think of an example right now, but this stuff bugged me when I was younger.)
I don't know how much of this is type related and how much of it is individual idiosyncrasy.
Regarding group projects: they can bug me too, but it really does depend on whether I'm in a group of slackers or not. And on that note:
And if I couldn't trust them to do anything (not even the simplest tasks), I would try to talk to the professor anyway, regardless of whether they hated me or not. Professors are supposed to be objective and not pick favorites, so if the professor were to blow me off, they wouldn't be doing their job, and I could complain to the higher-ups. Sure, the professor would hate me even more, but as long as my grade was good and everything got solved, I wouldn't care.
(Also, I would ask a TA, if that were an option.)
What you're describing, while I relate to it (in a less exaggerated form), is not ESTJ specific. It isn't even SJ specific. Really, any obsessive J can do this. The person I know who is the most like this is my aunt, who is INxJ (tests as INTJ, but used to be INFJ so has very developed Fe).
So I guess my point is: out of all the students you should worry about catering to, ESTJs probably aren't going to be one of them. If they aren't learning what they want to be, they'll find a way to make sure they do. sui generis got it right when she said that it's pretty much just asking a ton of questions and then doing the work, for ESTJs.