No one is entitled to anyone else's time. We agree on that. It sounds like she's a bit too self-centered and needs more friends than just you.The problem is that she thinks she is entitled to my time, as I mentioned in the last post. It's not so much what I'm doing, but that she thinks her desire to meet with me trumps my ability to do the thing. It's not as serious as a doctor appointment or what not. That would be enough to get her to shut up about meeting up, surely. On the other hand, what I'm doing is not one of what she calls my 'duties', and it's not 'productive' which to her means it's 'free time' which means she is entitled to it.
We may disagree here, but I don't think anyone is entitled to my time, much less a friend who makes me uncomfortable.
I guess I'll have to brave the jerk-face behaviour. If she throws a shitstorm, even to the extent of ending the friendship, I can't say there will be much to lose. It might even be a favour, because I am getting to the point of fantasizing about ending the friendship myself.
Jerk-face behavior has mainly come about because I asked the wrong questions or asked for a favor that I thought would be no big deal until it interfered with plans I was unaware of (withholding information). Under any other circumstances it would have been fine, but this little secret trumped me. I get that I'm not number 1 to everybody, but just be honest with me about it.
Sounds like you've decided, in any case...
PS Sorry if this sounds like an attack on you/your actions. D: