My mom is ISFJ and let me start by saying my SJ parents are very understanding of my INTP ways, and she doesn't demand as much emotional confirmation as she used to. But since December, she still hasn't gotten the concept of discussing emotional matters before playing the blame game. Which leads me to the whole concept of being a J. Can I expect a J to discuss emotions with me without making judgments? I'm one who believes in discussing beforehand, because we're all human and we don't know everything. But isn't that the opposite of what a J does?
Anyways, I'm tired of her pointing the finger, then running away. What am I doing wrong? Is this just the weakness of an ISFJ?