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    I am not affectionate in public. I don't do hugs and will stop other people from hugging me. The most my husband and I will do is give a peck on the mouth and hold hands in public. I actually don't like hugs from people I don't know. I find it an invasion of my personal space. This tends to be more of an introvert trait. In private, I get my 'touching' needs met through my children and husband and I am extremely affectionate.

    Once I have my baby, I will probably be all 'touched out' and will not need or want any touching from anyone. However, the one exception to this will be my children.

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    I think I am very loving. If I like you, than you will know about it. If I don't then you probably won't see me around very much or I might just keep my distance. I hate conflicts, life is too short for those games.

    I consider my love for my husband as deeper than openingly passionate. It's more like an old elderly couple that have loved each other since they where high school sweet hearts. I rarely demand anything from anyone other than good behavior from my kids and hopefully students, adults well it's not my business.

    If my husband is busy doing something I often will come up and give him a peck on the cheek. A bear hug every once in awhile. As for my kids I will give them a kiss on the cheek in public, a hug or walk with my arm around them. However it embarrasses my 15 year old, my 11 year old and 10 year old don't mind. My 3 year old is a bit rebellious it all depends on her mood. Mostly she would rather I carry her; depending on my energy level I usually don't mind.

    We may not be the artistic romantic type however we guard, stand up and protect those under our care. Ultimately known as reliable and not given into pleasure seeking behaviors.

    So it really depends on the type of affection you are asking about.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kai View Post
    Why the shyness about PDA?
    Well... it's the same reason that some ISFJs are known to flirt by acting all coy like.
    I had a feeling ISFJs weren't overly keen on PDA. I'm not keen on it myself. Just as well.

    I'm still confused about ISFJs "acting coy". Can you elaborate on that, or distinguish it from being genuinely disinterested? I was talking to my ISFJ over IM and I was getting round to asking for a date/meet up/however you would call it. This is basically how it went (this was sometime last week):

    ISFJ: [...] Yeah, I'm the same. I'm so disorganized too!
    Me: Well, if you're so disorganized, I'm guessing you haven't organized any plans for the weekend?
    ISFJ: Besides [insert friend's name] having a birthday party, nope. No plans. =]
    Me: I don't have any plans either, besides a day out in London.
    ISFJ: Coolio.
    Me: (*sweatdrop*) Yeah.
    [conversation dies for a couple of minutes]
    ISFJ: I think Easter's pointless !

    I never got round to asking her until this Tuesday. I decided not to bottle it and be direct about my intentions. It went something like this:

    Me: Doing anything interesting next Saturday, then?
    ISFJ: Nope! I haven't got any plans. You?
    Me: Same, hence why I asked. Wanna meet up?
    ISFJ: Sure, why not.

    Besides me suggesting the meet up, she's arranged everything. xD What we're doing, what film we're seeing, what time and place we're meeting, etc. Is that a good sign?
    Um, yeah.

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    Its fantastic!
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    Hmm well, I can say with my new g/f she's very easily embarrassed by PDA, especially around our friends who tease the living hell out of us I seem to take that teasing much better than she does, as for me it feels like I'm on stage, in a way. But in private she's reciprocated anything I've done and really SQUEEEEEES over it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by countrygirl View Post
    I actually don't like hugs from people I don't know. I find it an invasion of my personal space. This tends to be more of an introvert trait.
    True... though I don't think you'll find many ExTx's are particularly touchy-feely either, though I think ESTP's can be sometimes if they're in that exuberant mood they sometimes get. But I totally relate about strangers invading personal space. Even though I know they mean well usually, I still don't like it :/
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    Here's my thoughts.

    Well I don't believe in extreme PDA's but holding hands, hugging, little touches etc, stuff like that is completely fine by me. When in private, I think affection is very appropriate and is important for a healthy relationship.

    Basically I think PDAs should be done within reason but I do welcome them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Grungemouse View Post
    I had a feeling ISFJs weren't overly keen on PDA. I'm not keen on it myself. Just as well.

    I'm still confused about ISFJs "acting coy". Can you elaborate on that, or distinguish it from being genuinely disinterested? I was talking to my ISFJ over IM and I was getting round to asking for a date/meet up/however you would call it. This is basically how it went (this was sometime last week):


    Besides me suggesting the meet up, she's arranged everything. xD What we're doing, what film we're seeing, what time and place we're meeting, etc. Is that a good sign?
    Haha. Yeah it's a good sign.

    Guess the whole coy attitude will vary in intensity depending on how shy the actual ISFJ is. It's a case of very small pokes to gauge their reaction - and those that I'm closest to usually get teased a fair bit.

    Funny though~ I never initiate contact with others or assume that they're intersted unless it's really obvious even if I'd love to hang about with others, which reminds me. There's an ISFJ I'd like to hang around more often.

    Guess someone needs to be the initiator of the original meet up.

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    From a data set of one, ISFJs can be quite affectionate in private. While physical touch is appreciated, they can really like verbal affirmation, and will provide this till you get the hint about returning it. They definitely thrive on it.

    In public, I'd say that a little overt display can be appreciated, especially for the signals that it sends to others that she's taken, and that you're in charge. Beyond that may induce embarrassment.

    Since they are likely to value traditional gender roles at least somewhat, ISFJ behavior may seem to be quite different for males.

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    My ISFJ girlfriends have all been quite affectionate. I mean, not in screaming positive emotions and "I LOVE YOU" kind of thing (which I'd abhor), more like hugs and kisses and stuff. Of course, I'm Italian, so part of it may just be cultural.
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