alexx
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My bf is an ISTJ and he wants to know every single detail of every single thing. He asks me every question under the sun what did I do in detail at the gym to how much did I spend on my groceries. I'm starting to think this is a personality trait of the STJ. Wanting to know everything. As an ENFP, I'm pretty vague generally and don't really find reliving every single boring detail of every single thing very fun for me, especially when it has to do with money and how much in detail that I spent on something. Sometimes I just say "I don't know" because I can't be bothered because it annoys me or sometimes I really cannot remember. This bothers him endlessly. Just wondering if you do this, too? Is there a way to get him to lay off the endless questions??
I would also like to add that we're having a long distance relationship and I think this could be part of it, too.
O sweetie. I just got out of a 5 year relationship with an ISTJ. We met in a video game about 6 years ago. I moved across states to be with him after 2 years. He would always ask me questions about every little thing - even down to who I talked to that day.
I kind of shrugged it off thinking he was just a very inquisitive person. Then it got worse.
I started getting spied on. I had chat logs restored from a formated hard drive - that out of months of logs etc he found one item that could even be considered questionable - and I heard about it for years even after proving my innocence. It got really bad.
The thing is in his mind me not divulging every single iota of information meant I was lying or hiding something. In our minds it really isnt a big deal - but to some S.O.'s its a HUGE DEAL.
There is no way to get him to stop. You need to just answer them the best you can. Offer the information if need be because the next step is the accusations and then the snooping. Hell, you may even take notes if you have to so that you can remember!!!!
I don't know if its a type thing or what but I could have written that post up there a few years ago.
Nightmare.