Yeah, if something really serious is going on in my life, I probably won't tell you unless
1. you're a close friend, or
2. you ask me.
Seriously, if you just ask me what's wrong, I'll probably tell you... if you really seem like you care, and if I like you.
Depends on the ESTJ, probably, but anger and a raised voice is usually there. With female ESTJs, there might be more getting choked up and less yelling.What form do ESTJ explosions take?
Embarrassed, if it's in public (ESPECIALLY if the conversation in which the explosion took place was with someone outside of the inner circle - I absolutely HATE it when that happens!!!), and, if it's in private, well... naked. Exposed. Vulnerable. Once those feelings wear off, then you get confused. So, to answer your question... both. Just in different stages.Does the ESTJ feel undignified after the explosion, or just mystified?
It looks like, as Anne (from Anne of Green Gables) might say, we are kindred spiritsI can't let something rest in my mind until I have figured out why I even have a certain feeling, let alone an explosion at someone. Once I've figured out what caused it I feel like I can control whatever happens or form a viable plan of action. I think this is why closure matters so much to me and why I have a compulsive need to know what the other person is thinking and I always assume the worst. It's like closure in plans matters to you, how you may assume the worst about unknown future situations and you need to gather all information possible to feel secure. Too bad we couldn't shake us all up. together.