I realize I'm being somewhat vague here, but I would really appreciate any general suggestions you might have that relate to a current situation of mine.
I am "moving on" in my life and withdrawing from a religious organization that I've been closely involved with for many years, working alongside a family member (ISFJ) and former close friend from school (ESFJ). They are both distraught/confused about my decision, and want to meet with me to discuss it, etc. etc.
They both have very strong views and a mindset that holds tightly to tradition, and they expect others to be the same way. Does anyone have advice on how I might (least offensively) explain that I feel my decision and the change itself is a positive step for me personally? I think I would describe it as "finding myself" and "embracing change and new things" but I have a feeling those phrases will not go over so well.
I am expecting to be told what I "should" do. In the past, I've had a hard time explaining to them that I feel it's a violation of people's personal rights when someone gives commands and tells others what personal decisions they should make. Is there a better way I could say this that might be more clear or make more sense to an SFJ type?
I understand that we'll just have to disagree (and it's ultimately my decision what I do, anyway) but if there's a way to at least promote understanding and common ground, I'd like to try to find it.