[ISFJ] ISFJs and yelling outbursts

[maliafee]

Is this normal?

My ISFJ is WONDERFUL, but when something goes wrong and he's super frustrated (a piece of machinery doesn't work and he can't figure it out, over and over and over, for instance), he will let out a super big "GHAHHHHHH!!!" at no one in particular. Sometimes he's so mad he has to go outside and pace and yell a few times. No amount of consoling helps, it's best to just let him get it out.

It's not directed at me, it's not scary, it's just unusual. I've never heard anything like it.

Any thoughts?

 

[cogdecree]

I don't believe (not 100% sure, others will confirm such or not) this is ISFJ related, but more of individually learned techniques of releasing stress. I'm also guessing if working out is unavailable (like if your at work) or time constraints (taking time to listen to music).

I do this myself occuationally, especially in similar situations (meddling with machinery).

I don't think its werid myself.

 

[Wiley45]

My mom is an ISFJ, and does the same thing. Also, when she accidentally hurts herself she has the same type of outburst, and if you try to talk to her during that time, she gets even more upset.

 

[Wiley45]

(Actually, I should add that an ESFP I know does the same thing.)

 

[maliafee]

(Actually, I should add that an ESFP I know does the same thing.)

Interesting. Well my older ESTP brother used to yell out of nowhere, but only to get out his anxiety. Like he'd be reading a book for an hour or so and just have to yell. Hehe. Totally different thing though.

 

[/DG/]

I don't really think that's related to MBTI. All of my brothers seem to yell out when they're frustrated and they don't have the same personalities.

 

[Hirsch63]

Yes, I do this....and have for a long time. I don't enjoy it.

 

[heart]

Any type can lose their temper.

 

[Snow Turtle]

Yeah it's pretty normal shouting at the universe.

 

[Wild horses]

I have been on the receiving end of an ISFJ yelling outburst.. It is weird and I can only liken it to a toddler having a tantrum... I'm not saying this is the case for all ISFJs at all just in this case. The only way I could find to deal with it is to remain very calm and unmoved, as in this particular case there is a need to unsettle the person they are ranting at, once they see that this is not happening half the motivation is gone. Then it's just a case of taking their mind of things and trying to rationalise (Very difficult for ENFP) them out of their tantrum... Basically deal with it as you would a toddler... This is just my experience with one particular ISFJ it can't be said for every ISFJ of course

PS I love and admire the said ISFJ very much and so none of the above is meant as an isult

 

[Kasper]

I have been on the receiving end of an ISFJ yelling outburst.. It is weird and I can only liken it to a toddler having a tantrum.

Surely anyone who directs a yelling outburst at another person could be likened to a toddler having a tantrum. It's not an adult thing to do.

Like others have said, it's not a type thing it's individual. Can’t say I understand it.

 

[Fluffywolf]

I've been known on rare occasion to shout back when shouted at. Damned Fe sneaking up on me.

 

[Hirsch63]

Surely anyone who directs a yelling outburst at another person ......

The OP was addressing outbursts as a result of frustation with challenging tasks...not outbursts during personal exchanges.

 

[Kasper]

The OP was addressing outbursts as a result of frustation with challenging tasks...not outbursts during personal exchanges.

I read the OP. What you quoted was responding to someone talking about an outburst directed at her, as I quoted.

The rest of my post was in reference to the OP.

 

[spirilis]

lol, I do this when I'm really at my wit's end, although it's usually laced with expletives

 

[Hirsch63]

To the OP, I gave it some more thought and it seems that I am much more likely to experience an outburst when the rask at hand was unexpected...like an automotive breakdown...or some task where I have not been able to gather the proper tools and do a little research into what might be wrong. I seldom have problem when I encounter difficulties performing tasks that I intentionally prepared for.

Is this a preference fault? I hope a few other ISFJ folk will stop by and offer their experiences and insight. I'd like to see if (as your OP suggests) there might be some corelation here...where we might take steps to address the problem?

I understand that part of the preference profile fo an ISFJ is to avoid conflict (or as I see it pointless conflict) ...an outburst at objects or processes is one thing but at people? It would have to be a very specific and intense provocation for me at least.

 

[Laurie]

My ISTP brother does this. He even will hit things that bother him. (Like if he stubs his toe he will kick the thing that he hurt it on) Only when he is really mad though.

 

[Saslou]

I have to admit i do have yelling outbursts .. although trying to control them .. My problem is everything has to be done a particular way ie Perfect, so when the flat pack instructions are in a foreign language, i'll just get on with it until i flip out and throw the screwdriver across the room .. but as quick as my outburst is, im calm again and i start all over again .. Because i do everything almost perfect i expect the same in return .. lol .. but flat pack items are not usually perfect be it instructions or missing screws ..

 

[Tea Party]

Yeah... I do that. It's just because we don't usually let out our frustration, it just builds and builds until we have random outbursts like that. I didn't know it was so unusual...

 

[Giggly]

I don't do this. I get frustrated with things sometimes but I don't yell out.

I have, however, yelled back at someone who yelled at me first.