User Tag List

First 23456 Last

Results 31 to 40 of 122

Thread: Finding ISFJ's

  1. #31
    Senior Member Shadow's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2009
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Posts
    453

    Default

    @ maliafee - Awwwww

    Quote Originally Posted by d@v3 View Post
    Well, this question have been nagging me for a couple weeks now. I guess it's just out of curiosity though as Jeffster and some others were talking to me about it in vent. And since Warm refuses to help me by answering my questions...

    How does one go about finding and wooing an ISFJ?
    What do ISFJ's look for in a guy/girl?
    How similar are they to the ISTJ when it comes to relationships?
    Where do they "hide out"?
    How do they flirt?
    What types are they typically interested in?
    Sorry Dave but I'm going to answer with the ISFJ male in mind

    How does one go about finding and wooing an ISFJ?
    Not at a club or bar with loud thumping music, I wouldn't have thought. They might be there, but they won't be bounding over to you. Look for the slightly shy looking person who is with a lot of friends and who may seem a bit overwhelmed by the loudness/bright lights/activity, but who looks cute rather than serious.
    The best bet, unfortunately, is probably through friends, at a house party or pub or somewhere quiet where people can talk.

    What do ISFJs look for in a guy/girl?
    Someone somewhat traditional in terms of appearance (i.e. feminine or masculine, by the way they dress if nothing else, although I don't think this is a dealbreaker.) Trustworthy, loyal and steady so they can entrust their thoughts with you and know you won't ever embarrass or hurt them. Probably someone who takes home and family as seriously as them (my family's all over the place and I hardly contact them - I had to effectively show my bf that I could *do* family. I've now been accepted as a part of his family by his parents and he loves me for it!) They don't want a pushover though, they'll admire you if you have your own mind and opinions, as long as you don't push them down other people's throats. I think aggressivity and coarseness is a big turn-off for them. They appreciate politeness and someone who'll listen to them and at least try to understand; someone who won't ride roughshod over their feelings. Someone who appreciates and shares their sense of humour.

    How similar are they to ISTJ when it comes to relationships?
    Quite similar.
    The similarities I've noticed: Likes to keep private life private; relationships are a priority with them and they'll keep their word, love and cherish you as long as you don't hurt or neglect them; they like a bond which is deeper than just physical and enjoy talking and laughing with you; they want a long-term relationship and their ideal is lasting love.
    The differences I've noticed: Likes to really make a fuss over you (in the nice, caring way); may be inclined to put you somewhat on a pedestal; needs affection and reassurance of your love, like the ISTJ does too, but probably moreso; sex is very much an intimate demonstration of love rather than a physical act (maybe other ISTJs feel differently from me, but I can enjoy sex for the physical feeling as well as because of any bond I have with my partner).

    How do they flirt?
    Coy is a good word.
    Thinking about the male, they are visibly interested in you, smile a lot, are charming (when they really like you they can be surprisingly forward, in a gentlemanly way), compliment you, talk about their lives as if they're letting you in. When you've already been on a date together you'll know they like you if they call or invite you out again (heh - my ISFJ just called me right after I wrote this!! I have to admit, sometimes it's like he can read my mind ), but don't expect a kiss or physical closeness necessarily on the first date (with us it was the 3rd, but I was ready before then!) because it's not really dating etiquette. When they've assured themselves that you're a good person they'll really open up and show you the true depths of their warmth.

    Hope that's somewhat accurate.

  2. #32
    No moss growing on me Giggly's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    MBTI
    iSFj
    Enneagram
    2 sx/so
    Posts
    9,666

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Shadow View Post
    @ maliafee - Awwwww



    Sorry Dave but I'm going to answer with the ISFJ male in mind

    How does one go about finding and wooing an ISFJ?
    Not at a club or bar with loud thumping music, I wouldn't have thought. They might be there, but they won't be bounding over to you. Look for the slightly shy looking person who is with a lot of friends and who may seem a bit overwhelmed by the loudness/bright lights/activity, but who looks cute rather than serious.
    The best bet, unfortunately, is probably through friends, at a house party or pub or somewhere quiet where people can talk.

    What do ISFJs look for in a guy/girl?
    Someone somewhat traditional in terms of appearance (i.e. feminine or masculine, by the way they dress if nothing else, although I don't think this is a dealbreaker.) Trustworthy, loyal and steady so they can entrust their thoughts with you and know you won't ever embarrass or hurt them. Probably someone who takes home and family as seriously as them (my family's all over the place and I hardly contact them - I had to effectively show my bf that I could *do* family. I've now been accepted as a part of his family by his parents and he loves me for it!) They don't want a pushover though, they'll admire you if you have your own mind and opinions, as long as you don't push them down other people's throats. I think aggressivity and coarseness is a big turn-off for them. They appreciate politeness and someone who'll listen to them and at least try to understand; someone who won't ride roughshod over their feelings. Someone who appreciates and shares their sense of humour.

    How similar are they to ISTJ when it comes to relationships?
    Quite similar.
    The similarities I've noticed: Likes to keep private life private; relationships are a priority with them and they'll keep their word, love and cherish you as long as you don't hurt or neglect them; they like a bond which is deeper than just physical and enjoy talking and laughing with you; they want a long-term relationship and their ideal is lasting love.
    The differences I've noticed: Likes to really make a fuss over you (in the nice, caring way); may be inclined to put you somewhat on a pedestal; needs affection and reassurance of your love, like the ISTJ does too, but probably moreso; sex is very much an intimate demonstration of love rather than a physical act (maybe other ISTJs feel differently from me, but I can enjoy sex for the physical feeling as well as because of any bond I have with my partner).

    How do they flirt?
    Coy is a good word.
    Thinking about the male, they are visibly interested in you, smile a lot, are charming (when they really like you they can be surprisingly forward, in a gentlemanly way), compliment you, talk about their lives as if they're letting you in. When you've already been on a date together you'll know they like you if they call or invite you out again (heh - my ISFJ just called me right after I wrote this!! I have to admit, sometimes it's like he can read my mind ), but don't expect a kiss or physical closeness necessarily on the first date (with us it was the 3rd, but I was ready before then!) because it's not really dating etiquette. When they've assured themselves that you're a good person they'll really open up and show you the true depths of their warmth.

    Hope that's somewhat accurate.
    This is really good. I'm impressed.

  3. #33

    Default

    I'd say that's pretty accurate about most things.

  4. #34
    Senior Member Argus's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    MBTI
    ENTP
    Posts
    658

    Default

    ISFJ's can be found: At the mall with their ESFJ buddies.

  5. #35
    Senior Member simpleamazement's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    MBTI
    istj
    Enneagram
    1
    Posts
    224

    Default

    In an office.

    I work with some ISFJs...cute ones. But I don't think it's a good idea for me to date them.

  6. #36
    Senior Member Warm's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    MBTI
    ISFJ
    Posts
    723

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Justin V View Post
    In an office.

    I work with some ISFJs...cute ones. But I don't think it's a good idea for me to date them.
    Why not?
    "Your voice is like chocolate...dreamy."
    --WildHorses

  7. #37
    Senior Member simpleamazement's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    MBTI
    istj
    Enneagram
    1
    Posts
    224

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Warm View Post
    Why not?
    Dating someone while working with them is tough...at least for me. Drama can spill over to your work environment. I've dated girls (ISFJ, ESFJ) who I worked with in the past. It wasn't pleasant once we figured out that it wasn't working out.

  8. #38
    Senior Member uberrogo's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    MBTI
    istj
    Posts
    132

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Justin V View Post
    Dating someone while working with them is tough...at least for me. Drama can spill over to your work environment. I've dated girls (ISFJ, ESFJ) who I worked with in the past. It wasn't pleasant once we figured out that it wasn't working out.

    Send them my way then please. ISFJs sound like they are the cats meow.
    If Men's Health magazine was true, you would never need to buy more than one issue.

  9. #39
    Senior Member Warm's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    MBTI
    ISFJ
    Posts
    723

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by uberrogo View Post
    Send them my way then please. ISFJs sound like they are the cats meow.
    Meeeeeooooooooooooooooooooooow!!!
    "Your voice is like chocolate...dreamy."
    --WildHorses

  10. #40
    Senior Member Dwigie's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2008
    MBTI
    INFP
    Posts
    658

    Default

    Hey....SJ and SP threads are fun.


    ( Please ignore me.)

    I know one ISFJ. She was introduced to my father by a friend of my mother(the ISFJ in question). She was really looking for the "man". Well-mannered, well-educated, well-groomed, well-...Hm, many of the things she looked for started with "Well".
    She was an elementary school teacher and not a wild girl. She was chased after apparently but was very "aware" of schemy boys which she quickly bypassed.
    Sometimes I feel like I'm "on Mercury"-

Similar Threads

  1. [ISFJ] Where my ISFJs at?
    By Oberon in forum The SJ Guardhouse (ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)
    Replies: 377
    Last Post: 10-11-2017, 03:56 PM
  2. [ISFJ] I have this weird problem: ISFJ women.
    By mysavior in forum The SJ Guardhouse (ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)
    Replies: 99
    Last Post: 01-20-2017, 11:15 PM
  3. Am i an isfj or infj? If I am neither please help me find my type 😭
    By Selftruthseeker😁🦄 in forum What's my Type?
    Replies: 3
    Last Post: 09-20-2016, 05:00 AM
  4. [ISFJ] Help me understand and respect my ISFJ mate?
    By crandolph in forum The SJ Guardhouse (ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)
    Replies: 42
    Last Post: 01-16-2008, 03:22 PM
  5. [ISFJ] ISFJ's Inflexibility
    By Zhash in forum The SJ Guardhouse (ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)
    Replies: 64
    Last Post: 01-04-2008, 09:55 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO