User Tag List

123 Last

Results 1 to 10 of 95

  1. #1
    Let's make this showy! raz's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    MBTI
    LoLz
    Posts
    2,523

    Default How not to pursue an ISTJ

    I stole this idea from dave. Basically all of the things not to do when going after an ISTJ. All of the things that would scare them away.

    I'd have to say, around the time of first meeting each other:

    Trying to get me to laugh a lot.

    Trying to get me to smile a lot.

    Asking me what's bothering me.

    Telling me to loosen up.

    There's more, I'll have to think about it. I'll post some later tomorrow.


  2. #2
    Senior Member Shadow's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2009
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Posts
    453

    Default

    Be too keen or forward. I'll be the judge of whether I want you or not...

    Be really drunk and neanderthalesque.

    Start a conversation about sport, or refer to sport in any way.

    Make it really clear that your main objective is getting laid, and helpfully hint at the proximity of your flat.

    Plus I like your ideas raz... Has someone tried to chat you up by telling you to loosen up?!

  3. #3
    Senior Member Eagle's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    MBTI
    ISTJ
    Enneagram
    1w9 sx/so
    Socionics
    LSI
    Posts
    733

    Default

    I laugh when someone tells me to loosen up and when it's said repeatedly or very seriously I can see how it's a turn off.

    Being Stupid. That's a really good one. Probably one of my favorites. So, by all means don't be stupid.

    I like all the rest of the suggestions so far. Except for the "keen or forward" one. That depends on the ways you do it, but in general, it's bad.
    - Caleb

    "I am what I need to be..."

    "Nemo me impune lacessit - No one provokes me with impunity."

  4. #4
    Junior Member
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    MBTI
    ISTJ
    Enneagram
    1w9
    Posts
    11

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by raz View Post
    I stole this idea from dave. Basically all of the things not to do when going after an ISTJ. All of the things that would scare them away.

    I'd have to say, around the time of first meeting each other:

    Trying to get me to laugh a lot.
    Unless you're a comedian, probably won't happen.

    Quote Originally Posted by raz View Post
    Trying to get me to smile a lot.
    Replace "a lot" with "at all" and I'm with you.

    Quote Originally Posted by raz View Post
    Asking me what's bothering me.
    That question is what's bothering me.

    Quote Originally Posted by raz View Post
    Telling me to loosen up.
    This one's interesting. The assumption seems to be that I'm actually this wild party animal that for some reason is holding back the natural beast that I am. So if I'd just stop holding back, then I'd act like everyone else.

    Quote Originally Posted by Shadow View Post
    Be too keen or forward. I'll be the judge of whether I want you or not...
    I'll go with that. I'm suspicious if it's far too easy.

    Quote Originally Posted by Shadow View Post
    Be really drunk and neanderthalesque.
    Can't say I've ever run into this. A few drunk, but don't know any women who act like neanderthals.

    Quote Originally Posted by Shadow View Post
    Start a conversation about sport, or refer to sport in any way.
    I've honestly never heard this. Is there some theory that ISTJs don't like sports? Talking about sports works with me EVERY TIME.

    Quote Originally Posted by Shadow View Post
    Make it really clear that your main objective is getting laid, and helpfully hint at the proximity of your flat.
    I may have missed the point of this thread. Is this about ISTJs in general or personal theories that may not be applicable to ISTJs in general? As far as this one goes, I think this doesn't work with a lot of women regardless of type. I've never had a woman do that with me, although I suspect my vantage point is completely different...

    Quote Originally Posted by Shadow View Post
    Plus I like your ideas raz... Has someone tried to chat you up by telling you to loosen up?!
    I'm not Raz, but I have been told to loosen up. Doesn't usually work out too well. I've heard that I get "looser" as I get to know people more though.
    That's Mr Vulcan to you

  5. #5
    Senior Member Eagle's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    MBTI
    ISTJ
    Enneagram
    1w9 sx/so
    Socionics
    LSI
    Posts
    733

    Default

    Sports isn't an instant turn off but it bores me to death usually. I prefer to play them. As far as loosening up once we know someone better.. That happens for all of us. I mean, we are introverts. Being ISTJs we just keep the craziness closer to home. You gotta be close to feel it.
    - Caleb

    "I am what I need to be..."

    "Nemo me impune lacessit - No one provokes me with impunity."

  6. #6
    Senior Member uberrogo's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    MBTI
    istj
    Posts
    132

    Default

    Don't tell me to smile.
    If Men's Health magazine was true, you would never need to buy more than one issue.

  7. #7
    Senior Member Eagle's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    MBTI
    ISTJ
    Enneagram
    1w9 sx/so
    Socionics
    LSI
    Posts
    733

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by uberrogo View Post
    Don't tell me to smile.
    Yes indeed. Make me smile. But for me to smile I have to be genuinely happy. Forcing it doesn't work. It's a very delicate balance.
    - Caleb

    "I am what I need to be..."

    "Nemo me impune lacessit - No one provokes me with impunity."

  8. #8
    rawr Costrin's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    MBTI
    ENTP
    Enneagram
    5w4
    Socionics
    LII
    Posts
    2,320

    Default

    Hey peoples, is something bothering you guys? I'm here for you if you want to talk. Why don't you put a smile on that face? Did you know that it takes more muscles to frown than to smile? You guys should loosen up a bit, all then tension and stress is unhealthy. Why don't go out, have some fun for once? Maybe go to a party or a ballgame.

    Fo srs reply:
    I can relate to a lot of these things. Must be common between IT types.
    "All humour has a foundation of truth."
    - Costrin

  9. #9
    Senior Member Eagle's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    MBTI
    ISTJ
    Enneagram
    1w9 sx/so
    Socionics
    LSI
    Posts
    733

    Default



    ^That common enough?
    - Caleb

    "I am what I need to be..."

    "Nemo me impune lacessit - No one provokes me with impunity."

  10. #10
    Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2009
    MBTI
    ESTJ
    Posts
    43

    Default

    Yeah, why so serious?

Similar Threads

  1. [ISTJ] How NOT to Mislead an ISTJ?
    By Bubbles in forum The SJ Guardhouse (ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)
    Replies: 13
    Last Post: 06-03-2015, 03:37 PM
  2. [ISTJ] Seeking Advice for how to telll an ISTJ Female How I Feel
    By typexplr in forum The SJ Guardhouse (ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)
    Replies: 6
    Last Post: 12-21-2014, 10:39 AM
  3. [ISTJ] How to coach an ISTJ?
    By Dizzy in forum The SJ Guardhouse (ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)
    Replies: 2
    Last Post: 10-04-2010, 03:49 PM
  4. [ISTJ] How much to contact an ISTJ ?
    By skyler in forum The SJ Guardhouse (ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)
    Replies: 13
    Last Post: 12-06-2009, 03:12 PM
  5. [ISTJ] How to make an ISTJ swoon
    By moonbaby in forum The SJ Guardhouse (ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)
    Replies: 36
    Last Post: 11-16-2008, 11:14 AM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO