I do think that it would be a bad thing for her to try and change. See, either way. When do people try to change? Typically when they are young. By doing this they actually grow more. So, although it's a bad thing in some sense, its a good thing. I am encouraging her to be who she is. Yet, I want her to grow as an individual as well. One way to do that is to learn life lessons. The only real teacher in life is experience (that statement works just takes a lot of explaining). I see her growing so much more by trying to change and then realizing she can't and then growing as an individual, than just being who she is and going after the boy. So, I'm torn, between helping her in two different ways. One might be more painful, but isn't that pain what helps us grow? So, yes.