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    Quote Originally Posted by Donna Cecilia View Post
    Maybe it is because of F vs. T differences, but, I can´t be friends with ex-couples.
    I have not done it either but I've only been with a T who lacked that sort of charm.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Abstract Thinker View Post
    OMG, so pleased. Can I have all you SJ folks (of any gender) over for breakfast (or dinner... whatever)?

    lol!

    Sure.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Donna Cecilia View Post
    I am surprised.

    Maybe it is because of F vs. T differences, but, I can´t be friends with ex-couples.
    I just take the high road (in the nicest, most unassuming way) and I figure "why not be friends... this is someone I LOVED" -- I couldn't carry a grudge with a bucket. Life's too short...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Abstract Thinker View Post
    I just take the high road (in the nicest, most unassuming way) and I figure "why not be friends... this is someone I LOVED" -- I couldn't carry a grudge with a bucket. Life's too short...
    I carry grudges like woah, but I view it as-- this person obviously meant something to me for a reason, why would I not want to keep them in my life? Unless the breakup was a disaster.
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    Avery Brown: Because it's boring and dishonest and uncomfortable, like wearing a pair of shoes all day that pinch your feet.

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    It is not about holding a grudge. I don´t hold them either.

    All of my exes who proposed me to be friends, did so in order to manipulate me.

    I can´t stand people playing games on me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Donna Cecilia View Post
    It is not holding a grudge. I don´t hold them either.

    All of my exes who proposed me to be friends, did so in order to manipulate me.

    I can´t stand mind games on me.
    You KNOW the difference... good for you. Trust your instincts.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Abstract Thinker View Post
    I just take the high road (in the nicest, most unassuming way) and I figure "why not be friends... this is someone I LOVED" -- I couldn't carry a grudge with a bucket. Life's too short...
    Me neither. I don't like holding grudges either. Unless they are not nice to me or I still have feelings for them. Then I can't be friends until the feelings go away.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Giggly View Post
    Me neither. I don't like holding grudges either. Unless they are not nice to me or I still have feelings for them. Then I can't be friends until the feelings go away.
    Oooh, I had an ex that took the longest time to learn that. He wanted to remain friends after we broke up, but he kept picking fights when I'd go out on a date with a new guy. Finally, I stopped talking to him for a few months and then we started talking again and everything was fine. Too many people don't give it some time before trying to remain friends!

    I'm friends with several exes. The ones I've managed to remain friends with are good friends too. If we were together for a long time we typically had about a 3-6 months break from speaking before we became friends. Worked every time!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Abstract Thinker View Post
    SJ women love me, and I know how to work it.
    You guys drive me insane, but there is a pull for some reason. I won't question it

    Quote Originally Posted by Abstract Thinker View Post
    OMG, so pleased. Can I have all you SJ folks (of any gender) over for breakfast (or dinner... whatever)?
    Sure, why not .. You cooking?

    Quote Originally Posted by Donna Cecilia View Post

    All of my exes who proposed me to be friends, did so in order to manipulate me.
    I can´t stand people playing games on me.
    I can't be friends with an ex either for the same reasons you have mentioned. Ideally it would be nice to remain friends but you know what they say about ideals.
    “I made you take time to look at what I saw and when you took time to really notice my flower, you hung all your associations with flowers on my flower and you write about my flower as if I think and see what you think and see—and I don't.”
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