I am in a relationship with an ISTJ. I'm an ENFP. We've been friends for 8 years but recently have gotten serious in a romantic relationship.
Something that is bothering me is that he hangs on to all old girlfriends (and friends that are girls) and that is very annoying to me. He has never actually lost touch with any ex girlfriends (or girls that are friends) it seems. I feel so jealous knowing that he insists on keeping friends with all of them. Is this normal for ISTJ's? Do they have a hard time letting go of old relationships?
He's not 'hiding' anything with me. He is open and up front and says I can be 'friends' with his 'friends', too. He even gave me his password to his facebook! (he offered) which to be honest I'm too nervous to look at incase I get freaked out.
A bit about me, I've always known I've been more sensitive than many/most(?) other people. I am incredibly emotionally sensitive and I think I have chosen the least sensitive man I've ever known in some ways, he's soooo rough around the edges, not romantic, realistic to a fault, a bit pessimistic, guarded, sometimes hurtful, a bit controlling and frankly blunt as hell! However, I find myself so drawn to him and in some ways I feel he knows me better than any other man. He is kind of like my Rock. Our relationship sort of reminds me of "I Love Lucy" -- I'm Lucy, he's Ricky. It's so confusing!!
Thanks for all the thoughts.
--A bit too sensitive for her own good