Oh, dear. I might add the ESFJ sibling I mentioned is a preteen, and therefore still in the maturing stage? Plus, we're sisters, haha! Of course we're going to see each other at our ugliest.
ESFJs ARE lovely. They truly are. Great planners, great people-people, and they can bring life to anyone and anything. I think it's their passion that distinguishes them--it can go either in a great direction or a bad one. I do apologize for only mentioning the negatives, that wasn't my intention at all.