Oh....my. They're everywhere! I swear, walk outside, and 75% chance the first girl you run into will be an xSFJ. Halfish of those are ESFJs and half are ISFJs. My mother and sister are ESFJ. At work, there are at least 6 ESFJs I work with. Then there's the ESFJ that I've been becoming friends with the last 2 months. They're just....so...caring. And they take whatever they see as your mood. The ENFJ girls will theorize about what's bugging you. The ESFJs will see you acting weird and will just start probing and probing and probing. Enough rant.
There's one ESFJ I work with that I really like. You can tell she genuinely cares about other people. I don't know how to explain it, but you can tell a difference between an ESFJ that's helping someone because they feel they need to and the ESFJ that's helping someone because they just care about them. It's an intricate difference.
See, everyone talks about ISTJs being able to just run their daily life. We can. We take care of the details damn well. But, the ESFJs, they're like the model citizens. They make sure they're like well kept up with while at the same time being so concerned about others. The girl that comes to a party or dinner that's well put together and flitting around talking to everyone is likely an ESFJ.
I just don't like how they constantly try to figure out why I'm so impersonal and analytical. The other thing that bothers me is it's like their feelings are hurt if they can't try to connect to you on a personal level.
Generous, caring, very sympathetic, outgoing, interested in others, very expressive, great with kids and animals, at times moody, needy, and they like tidy environments.
They always look well "put together" if that makes sense.
Mostly agreed...they're awesome in the right context. Just don't try to live or share any personal space with them unless you're very serious about cleanliness. They can get a little flustered over some trivial shit at times, but they're very caring and I respect their sense of duty to others above themselves.
If you could be anything you want, I bet you'd be disappointed--am I right?