I love ISTJs. I do. They're great workers, friends, thinkers...basically, great people. However, I have a problem with guy ISTJs: I seem to lead them into thinking I'm romantically interested in them.
This is, in a word, frustrating.
Everyone is attracted to different sorts of people, but the ISTJs who like me I like as friends, nothing more. (Frankly, I'm a sucker for Es of all types...) I argue more with them than any other type, I find myself using that "count to ten before replying" rule with them the most, and I find myself feeling horribly guilty for lashing out at them, because I rarely do that at all! So from my experience, I wouldn't enjoy an intimate relationship with an ISTJ, yet admit there are many pros for befriending them. I'm a great listener when they have a problem, I like to talk when they obviously feel like talking but don't know what to say, and I'm very encouraging when they're down. I don't do anything particularly flirty but those three things...so I'm lost as to what I should do.
I would chalk this up to coincidence, except it has happened three times now, and I can feel a fourth coming on. Those whom I've asked IRL accuse me of being too nice, but I treat everyone like that. What do you SJs know that I don't?