I guess maybe I want to be financially stable enough to have a kid by 30?
Thing is I have decided I'm going to adopt all my kids so now there's not even a time limit on having kids! Ideally I'd like to be in my late 20s-early 30s so I have enough energy to keep up with them.
I just need to have people to love and encourage! Each child is unique and has unique needs and finding out what each of them are and providing them with the right encouragement sounds like a pretty good use of NeFi to me!
I also just love the idea of having tiny souls I can watch grow into beautiful and amazing adults!
(Stoned Fi + hormones = embarrassingly rhapsodising about babies on the internet)
Also, it is not selfish to not want to have kids. It takes a strong person to recognise what they want and realise that following some prescribed social formula is not for them. People who never wanted children having and raising them anyway often results in unhappy children and that is sad. Kids aren't for everybody and it's great that you've accepted that about yourself!
OK! Are you all done ripping on me now? I hope you had fun!
Besides, 21 was just a ballpark figure when I was like... 12 years old... (I have since raised the bar of course. ) The earlier the better though in my opinion. Two kids would be good for me.... but hey.. if she wants more... I'm not complaining.
I've always been good with my finances, now I just need to finish up school and get a stable career going.