Thanks for that post, Kai. I like to think I'm the last person on earth to pursue someone if I didn't think they had the interest, mostly because I also feel crushed from unrequited love. but then again i am a guy, a bit romantic, so i may not see things clearly some times.
Normally, i would say, sure, friendship is a good goal for now, and we'll see where that leads, but i've spoken to other women who've said they'll never date anyone they've been friends with for any period of time. maybe because it's like, "if you were never interested in the first place, then you probably aren't sincerely interested now?" of course that was an ISTP talking, and i do not go to them for relationship advice (no offence if they're out there but they're probably not)
i gotta think less and do more...i like hmm's suggestions, and yours about bluntness, (although the flirting to me is actually lots of fun i hate to give it up...neither of you knowing...lots of tension...i'm horrible)
my most pressing question: is saying she doesn't want to "rush into things" actually that, or would an ISFJ be in fact very willing to rush into things immediately after a relationship if the new interest is someone she is truly, deeply interested in?