Can someone PLEASE explain to me how to evade the clutches of a female ISTJ? It seems like she is out to get me, but I can't just say "no" because that would be mean.
She was in the military so she is very tough on the outside when I see her in public. She changes her posture a little when talking to me though, as if she were trying to be softer. However she called me on the phone the other day to confide in me and she was crying! What am I supposed to say to that?! Naturally, I tried to use my empathy/sympathy skills, but obviously they suck. (Especially when your playing a video game while talking to her. )
I just can't bring myself to be blunt with her because what if I am wrong? Then our friendship would be awkward.
Obviously, I am NOT romantically interested in being with her, as I can only imagine what two ISTJ's would be like. I can barely handle myself!
Why am I always the one that gets victimized? Surely I'm not THAT vulnerable! I guess that's what happens when your "too nice" to people (as an ENFP said about me)! Poor me.