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    Quote Originally Posted by d@v3 View Post
    But aren't the ISTJ females much different than the males? I really don't know anything about them.
    From the posts I've seen by them about this kind of thing, they don't seem that much different. Unfortunately, they don't post as often as they used to.

    I mean, they seem to have a stronger, more independent, resilient kind of attitude about them, but on lots of emotional things, they pretty much agreed with us.
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    You can't spell "justice" without ISTJ.

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    Quote Originally Posted by d@v3 View Post
    I can't tell her that Chosen, that would be lie! Are you saying I should lie? She is still a friend regardless, and friends don't lie to friends. Besides, she saw me trying to hit on the ENFP so perhaps THAT is why she is trying to hunt me down and capture me!
    White lies are okay, if it gets you out of a mess like this. But if you don't feel comfortable doing that, then maybe you shouldn't, that's what I would do though. I lie to my friends a lot lol, but it's nothing serious so I don't give it a second thought. Once again, you don't have to do that, just a consideration.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheChosenOne View Post
    White lies are okay, if it gets you out of a mess like this. But if you don't feel comfortable doing that, then maybe you shouldn't, that's what I would do though. I lie to my friends a lot lol, but it's nothing serious so I don't give it a second thought. Once again, you don't have to do that, just a consideration.
    Yes but since she already knows I am "looking for someone" I can't say I want to be alone. She's not stupid. lol.

    And Cimarron, I remember the girls used to post alot more often too, I wonder where they are? Hmm.. well if you said they are like us with this type of thing then I will take your advice. I just can't say "I don't like you, now go away" for 3 reasons:

    1) I don't have the heart to do it
    2) It would ruin our regular friendship
    3) I would get hit in the face
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    Hmm... if you want to keep your friendship, then it's honestly a tough situation. You can tell her you like her, but just want to be friends.

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    Quote Originally Posted by d@v3 View Post
    Yes but since she already knows I am "looking for someone" I can't say I want to be alone. She's not stupid. lol.

    And Cimarron, I remember the girls used to post alot more often too, I wonder where they are? Hmm.. well if you said they are like us with this type of thing then I will take your advice. I just can't say "I don't like you, now go away" for 3 reasons:

    1) I don't have the heart to do it
    2) It would ruin our regular friendship
    3) I would get hit in the face
    A polite and firm "I'm flattered, but I just don't think of you like that". It's easier to just hit the nail head on here.

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    +1 if you're sure she's hitting on ya, Geoff has the right response
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    Awwww, you ISTJs are so confused when faced with feelings! It's adorable!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tiny Army View Post
    Awwww, you ISTJs are so confused when faced with feelings! It's adorable!
    Really.

    Just wait until he gets a Feeler.

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    I just can't say "I don't like you, now go away" for 3 reasons:

    1) I don't have the heart to do it
    2) It would ruin our regular friendship
    3) I would get hit in the face
    You are giving me the impression that although you might not want to hurt her feelings you also don't want to deal with the situation because you find it unpleasant. (Correct me if I'm wrong.) You are exaggerating the negative outcomes of being blunt. It is unlikely that she is going to hit you in the face unless she is openly violent. In that case you don't want to be friends with a person like that. If you are kind enough in your discussion with her it is also unlikely that you would ruin your regular friendship. You might use some self depricating humour to take the edge out of the situation. Bottom line: You're giving excuses to avoid confrontation...

    Remember she is a ISTJ. She may be disappointed in hearing the bad news but she would probably rather hear the truth. Beating around the bush is more likely to piss her off/hurt her than being blunt.
    Is not to be held accuntable for peeling errors.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tiny Army View Post
    Awwww, you ISTJs are so confused when faced with feelings! It's adorable!
    I'm not gonna lie. I do feel like a lost puppy dog.

    Uhh anyway. Yeah, so I think you all are right. I'm just going to have to have a civil talk with her and I'll try to keep it at a professional level.

    At least if she was a feeler she would be sympathetic in putting herself in my shoes, right? Not to mention she would take the dissapointment well since they are all the time optimistic!

    I don't know if I'm trying to avoid the situation... and unpleasant is an UNDERSTATEMENT.
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