No, the hotter they are the crazier they are. I live off the L train and it's like a parade of hot girls. And the best part is they're all super into craigslist missed connections. So you can actually find that adorable girl on the train. Unfortunately I can guarantee that that adorable girl on the train is super insecure and certifiably madder'n a sack full of cats covered in fish oil spiked with LSD.
Oh, then I don't want a hot girl. Well, I want a girl that is hot AND sane. But I'd rather have a sane girl over a hot girl any day if that is the choice I must make!
LOL! That is an awesome analogy! :yim_rolling_on_the_
I'm gonna go leave a message on Habba's wall telling him to take the L train next time he get's to the city.
Being friends with someone who I'm romantically interested would tear me apart. And it has.
I had this ex-girlfriend, with whom we shared a lots of common interests and activities. First I thought it would be really cool to have someone like that as a friend. But after couple of months, it was really tearing me in parts. It's like being on a strict-diet and living in a house made of chocolate and candy.
I guess it's the Si function at work here.
Totally agree, been there and done that.
D@ve3 - Have you told this ISTJ woman that you're fed up with her?
I'm an ISTJ woman and I need brutal and frank honesty, or I'll forever hope. Your whole situation in the first post makes me cringe, because I was exactly the same as her. Actually, even after I bluntly told the guy (INTP) that I was interested in him and he said he wasn't interested in me, we still ended up living together for a year and we ended up drunkenly kissing twice (ISTJs are nothing if not persistent).
Hmm, maybe I'm saying that it'll be hard to get her off your back even if you tell her that you don't want to know her!!
As it happens, me and this guy did actually have interesting conversations. He was cold, intellectual and good-looking, and that combination turns me slightly crazy, I'll admit, and I don't like what I become when that happens (I'm a cold woman and being clingy isn't something I aspire to). Bizarrely, I got on with his girlfriends, and sometimes they contacted me for advice about how to handle him even after I'd had a massive argument with him and we were no longer speaking! I said they should know better than me and told them to stick with it, it'll all be fine blah blah - one thing about ISTJs is that we are loyal as hell and won't stab you in the back (only in the front). We hadn't seen each other for years until a couple of months ago by accident. No arguments this time but we had a calm, interesting conversation and left it at that.
So yeah, literally tell her that you're uncomfortable that she's asking for your advice and trying to get close to you when you really don't have feelings for her. She will shout and scream. You will lose her as a friend, if not forever, until you decide to contact her again, if you do (she won't contact you because of her pride). Job done.
But it's just so........ evil. And I don't know 100% if she is ISTJ, it's just my guess as I described her earlier in the thread. I have been keeping my blunt side under control until now. I got lucky this week though, SHE cancelled out appointment, so maybe she is starting to get the picture.
Maybe my lack of affection when she was crying is all she needed to know that I (I know it's an aweful thing to say but) "didn't care!". I could say "Hooray for being a cold and hearltess SJ!" Unfortunately, it's a sword that falls both ways.
We are still friends though as far as I know. So far I havn't had to be the "bad guy" yet. I hope it stays that way. I just can't bring myself to be blunt and mean.... I'm turning soft and it's all YOU N's and F's who are at fault! ...I MUST rebuild my cold SJ base!