A friend of mine has a situation with her father, an ESTJ, who is very set in a traditional, religious mindset.
My friend is in her early twenties, a good student, and has never dated. However, recently she met someone and has fallen in love. Their relationship is completely pure - there has been absolutely no physical intimacy (not even a kiss!).
Because she desires her father's approval, she told him yesterday about the person and that she is very serious about starting a relationship with him. He became so angry that he threatened her that he wouldn't talk to her until she 'came to her senses'. Her father did cut off her older sister for not obeying his rules, and although it has been years, he still does not speak with her.
Her father believes that 1) she should focus on her schooling, and 2) that the person she is interested in is tainted because he is not a virgin (she is).
She pleaded with him twice, and he won't budge. In fact, the more she brings it up, the worse the threatened consequences have been.
She and her love interest are completely devastated. They are so similar in their values and goals in life, and they feel a deep connection. But her family is her family, and so she feels she has no choice but to break off the relationship.
If you have any advice for getting through to this ESTJ father, please help!