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[INTJ] INTJ Anger

Edgar

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[YOUTUBE="EbGJ7p6t6yE"]I call it Tuesday night...[/YOUTUBE]
 

Edgar

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ajblaise

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Billboards? Seriously, Jaguar?
 

Phoenix999

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As an INTJ, I've considered my temper or getting angry analogous to an earthquake. Earthquakes may have pre-shocks, but usually they don't. They hit, (not very often), and can sometimes cause incredible destruction. And then it's over. A few aftershocks, perhaps, but life goes on. The problem with earthquakes is that even though they may only last only a minute, depending on how strong the earthquake is, it can still cause immense damage which may take a long time from which to recover.

And that's sort of like my temper. I don't get mad or angry very often. Frustrated yes, irritated yes. But truly angry? no. However, when it does happen, there's generally not a lot of warning and it is scary at how fierce it is. Like some people posted, I get very sarcastic, biting, and sometimes even cruel. But then it's done...however, depending on how angry I've gotten, it isn't the same between that person and I. Actually had an ESTJ say something to me which was not well thought out AT ALL. Being exrtraverted, I don't think he gave much thought to how truly insensitive it was, or how truly insulting it was. And I got ANGRY and let loose. (after about 10 mins of being in shock) Again, very brief...but our relationship won't be the same....which is sad, but I don't regret losing my temper. Again, to continue the analogy....after an earthquake , it takes time to rebuild the complete and total devastation that has occured.
 

unicorn010

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I don't think I ever felt true anger until I was around 21...when I learned people who are told what they want to hear and believe it will often become poisoned against you when
you when you don't think you have to do it too. Sorry but that's pretty fucked up.
ENTJ
 

mrcockburn

Aquaria
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I frequently get irritated, but I never show it. I don't usually even vent to people I know; I usually successfully rationalize the irritation or potential anger away.

But there have only been a few occasions where I really got angry, and it was immediate. I had no time to rationalize. It was bizarre. I felt rabid. I just channeled all my physical strength everywhere and anywhere, and I had no clue what I was doing, when or if I'd stop. Hospital visits ensued. And not mine.

And then, each occasion, I got extremely run-down and fell asleep for at least 30 hours...very bizarre. I remember waking up once with one guy's blood in my nails and on my knuckles. Really gross, and I don't want it to happen again.

(That was when I caught a "friend" violently kicking my dog.)
 

Synapse

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For non-INTJs:
Have you ever encountered an angry INTJ before? Yes too many times in my life.
What was it like? Brutal!
 

Random Ness

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It's hard for me to be intimidated by my angry INTJ because his anger is...less outwardly emotional. I have to consciously decide that he's angry because it's not always obvious. On the other hand, I'm very intimidated when my INFJ gets angry.
 

Random Ness

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I find it interesting that most of you are saying you've only experienced true anger a couple times in your lives. I'm pretty sure if this was posted on the NF forum, the NFs would say they get angry frequently. I guess Fs toss around the word "angry" too much.
 

Esther

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Have you ever been angered before? Why? What was it like? I've been angered before, but I tend to either keep it to myself or just shout at people. I also pretend to be angry a lot more than I actually am so that people won't call me a robot. I think though that when I was at my angriest it was because somebody mispronounced a word, which I guess is pretty funny when I think about it. I was shouting like there was no tomorrow and I really should've videotaped it because from my memories it was really humorous.
How will INTJs show anger? How do you do it? I tend to avoid people and I laugh a lot when it's minor, and when it's major I shout a lot. That's how you can tell if I'm being real. Any time I'm crying it's most likely that those are my fake emotions. I've never met another INTJ so I don't know how other INTJs show it.
How long did it lasted? Did you regret it? Usually it lasts a day or so, and I don't regret it, I just like to put my past behind me, and maybe if I'm bored I can have a good chuckle about it.
 

Phatlip

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Have you ever been angered before?
This question sounds strange to me; are there people who have never been angered? I wanna swap lives with them!
Why?
It usually has to do with someone crossing a line that I've deemed uncrossable, something that would make me go basically "oh no you didn't!" and then explain to them exactly why I don't like what they're doing. Over time, I'm caring less and less about stuff and letting more things slide, and these "uncrossable moral lines" are disappearing as I become apathetic. One small bad thing after another really adds up though and that can cause me to be angry or irritable too.
What was it like?
I'll explain here how I felt: At the very worst, I will be shaking, incoherent, and the anger will take over my ability to think well enough to even form sentences. I really hate that because during those times when I'm mad, more than ever, I want to change something about the current situation, which is much more difficult when I can't even think straight. More mild anger has a similar effect but to a lesser degree; it'll hinder my ability to think logically and objectively unless something is done. Not being able to think is a scary thing for me because I spend all of my time thinking.
How will INTJs show anger? How do you do it?
If somebody has done, said etc something that offends me a lot or I think is very wrong, the anger may come out in a long explanation of why I think they're wrong (which is usually incoherent as I said above, and I realise this so I avoid it). This explanation is an extreme way of "doing something" about the problem. Usually I either avoid the person/problem, or just make a sarcastic remark or some comment, and it doesn't even matter if they don't hear or understand because it satisfies my need to do something (note that doing something != changing things or making a difference, just pleasing myself sufficiently so I can stop thinking about it). If I'm just having a bad day, and it's more of a buildup of small things rather than a specific thing, I'll do something to escape like listen to music or (over)indulge in something that pleases me. During this time when I try to calm down, nobody can interfere in any way and I will do everything to escape from the current situation which is causing me anger or stress. Leave me alone, give me my 15 minutes. If I can't have that then I'm not a fun person to be around; I unapologetically speak any negative thoughts on my mind eg I might flat-out say things like "I don't care" if someone's being uninteresting. I get into this mode where I stop giving a damn about anyone or anything. Things I'd normally think are important become things I don't feel bad about neglecting. As soon as I get my 15 minutes though, I'll be okay.

It really helps if there's someone who I can complain to about anything. My best friend is like this and it helps me deal with things that would normally occupy my mind all day. Remember how I said I must do something or I'll regret it? Something as small as ranting to him is enough to make me feel like I've done something, and that thing will no longer bother me.
How long did it lasted? Did you regret it?
It lasts until I do something and I regret doing nothing :p There are still things, tiny things that everyone else has forgotten about from years ago, that I'm pretty mad about to this day :/ But there's nothing I can do about the past so I just avoid thinking about it. I regret when I was younger, I had more "uncrossable lines" in my head, and I got mad more frequently and more intensely. I would react in ways that not only were extreme, but also didn't fix the problem. I'd yell a lot and would let basically nothing slide, and was not happy with anything less than what I deemed a perfect (looking back, usually unreasonable/impractical) solution. Over time I learned that you catch more flies with honey than vinegar and that staying calm and being patient is more effective. I've also learned that some battles aren't worth fighting. So I regret those times when I was more sensitive and easily triggered but I think I learned from them.

Hope I didn't forget anything important >_<
 
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