I'm new here and am glad I found this site, because I need some advice.
There are several important women in my life who are SFJs. It turns out that the ISFJs and I get along just fine. Maybe they're more over on the N side...I don't know.
What I do know is that as gregarious and compassionate and fun as the ESFJs are, we inevitably run into communication problems and then they want to "fix our relationship" by having "talks"! Agh!! I'm pretty much sick and tired of the talks because, at this point, I've had several of them and we always seem to be talking past each other. They want to "relate" on some deep level, and yet when I share things they look completely confused. And they don't understand why I just don't see the world the way they do.
Anyway, the wife of my husband's best friend sensed that I was offended by something she said and wants to talk about it over coffee. This is quite a socially important relationship (i.e., we're in the same circle of friends) but I highly doubt we're ever reaching Anne/ Diana levels of bosom friendship.
How should I handle this? Should I smile and nod? Share some touchy-feely stuff so she feels like it was a good conversation? Is there any possible way we could actually make progress with this talk? That would, obviously, be the ideal!