everything in moderation - aristotle : simplicity is the ultimate sophistication - da vinci : what lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters, compared to what lies within us - ralph waldo emerson : the more extensive a man's knowledge of what has been done, the greater will be his power of knowing what to do - benjamin disraeli : what we do now will echo throughout all eternity - gladiator
Trust...as in me being able to trust him, and him being able to trust me but not pry. haha
A sense of humor that fuels and partners well with my own.
Having a sense of comfort and openess between us; freedom to be myself, and help to interpret and develop myself.
An ability to console me and shield me from myself when I get all Fe'd out.
Enough intelligence to converse with me, and a willingness to try to keep up if I go off on some tangent.
Sufficient care to get to know me, and sufficient praciticality to use that knowledge.
Basically, somebody who can flesh out my gaps and do what I cannot do for myself. It helps if he's sexy, has nice chest hair and dimples, and likes to clean and cook.
My ISFJ better half these days fulfills these things. Am I biased, perhaps gloating? No. You asked for my values.
Okay, biased. And the downside to all of this is that he is not very good for theoretical, trivial, brainy, intution-y stuff. But you can't have your cake and eat it too, right?
Most important is intimacy and commitment. Part of intimacy is liking, getting along and respecting each other - intimacy is mediated by similarity. Commitment is the decision to stay together and commitment to shared goals and working together towards these.
"Neither a lofty degree of intelligence nor imagination nor both together go to the making of genius. Love, love, love, that is the soul of genius." - Wolfgang Amadé Mozart
yeah, that drives me crazy too...sometimes that causes more problems for
people than the thing that actually IS the problem. Probably how I became
an ENTJ...thinking 'oh hell I'll do it myself if everyone else is going to dick
around making up their minds on HOW to do it...' I've seen some people ta-
ke such a rediculous span of time to decide exactly when to do things it is-
n't even funny...like try a year or more. If you're an ENTJ a month might as
well be five years.
-a sense of humor that values irony, but isn't cruel
-a love of lively debate, but the willingness to admit when you're wrong
-intelligence, and the desire to share it with others instead of lording it over them
-easy suspension of disbelief (I'm very superstitious, for whatever reason)
-ease in crowds, but not attention-seeking
-optimistic realism; the ability to offer constructive criticism coupled with the belief that people can change for the better, if they so desire, and that what is right will eventually win out
-love of anything that's done well, and the ability to discern it from self-service
-patience to deal with my bs in public, and understand my reasons for it
-green or hazel eyes
(and yes, I'm aware that this person probably doesn't exist)
Beyond the obvious intangibles, I find written diction very important. If someone scrawls me a note or an email, and it's murky or riddled with errors, something in my brain will immediately strike that person from the list. Conversely, clear, forcible, eloquent prose will shoot me right through the heart.