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    Quote Originally Posted by pippi View Post
    Uh, did you just describe an INTJ woman as soft and nurturing, feminine and sweet?
    Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt both safe enough to open up and understood enough that you wanted to?

    I have it in me to be a cynical, overly intellectual and emotionally withdrawn romantic partner - the phrase 'trophy mindmate' just sprang to mind - but from my LTR with an ENFP I also know I have it in me to be a Peach. I'm wondering if a mature ENTP could - and would want to - bring that out and sustain it over the long term, or if I was right all along.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Economica View Post
    Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt both safe enough to open up and understood enough that you wanted to?

    I have it in me to be a cynical, overly intellectual and emotionally withdrawn romantic partner - the phrase 'trophy mindmate' just sprang to mind - but from my LTR with an ENFP I also know I have it in me to be a Peach. I'm wondering if a mature ENTP could - and would want to - bring that out and sustain it over the long term, or if I was right all along.
    I think an ENTP could. I got along well with an INTJ for a while but ultimately got bored, for reasons really unrelated to type. She was solid and serious in a way that was nice, which allowed me to do my own thing. Why so set on an ENTP in particular? Curious as to your thought process.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Synarch View Post
    I think an ENTP could. I got along well with an INTJ for a while but ultimately got bored, for reasons really unrelated to type. She was solid and serious in a way that was nice, which allowed me to do my own thing.
    Did you manage to bring out her Peachy side? How much maintenance did it require, and how rewarding was it for you? Do you think you would have found it worth the trouble over the long term, had you not gotten bored for reasons unrelated to type?

    Why so set on an ENTP in particular? Curious as to your thought process.
    Let's just say I'm sharing an office with this guy now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Economica View Post
    Did you manage to bring out her Peachy side? How much maintenance did it require, and how rewarding was it for you? Do you think you would have found it worth the trouble over the long term, had you not gotten bored for reasons unrelated to type?

    Let's just say I'm sharing an office with this guy now.
    I did not do anything particular to bring out her peachy side except spend time talking to her about ideas and things, which I do anyway, especially if in 'date mode'. This seemed to be rare for her. I even talked to her about MBTi IIRC. I think my ease and buoyancy made her feel comfortable that I was not looking for something from her and she felt comfortable with me quickly.

    How much maintenance did it require? I don't typically maintain relationships, so I could not tell you. They either work unconsciously or they do not. I put energy and effort into them, but I do not think of it as purposeful. More like just spontaneous love explosion.

    How rewarding was bringing out her peach side? It was interesting to see her soften. She was definitely very hands-on and serious as far as the relationship went. I could tell she was interested in doing whatever needed to be done to make things work. The thing I did not like was that there were subjects she just could not seem to talk about with any degree of comfort. Generally, these involved what I would consider very fundamental life experiences. It just felt like she put these things into a box and never considered them. If she ever did reveal anything it was usually related in a very remote way. I got the sense she was not comfortable with negative emotions in any way. So, she tended to stay rather calm and occasionally silly and mushy in a very unsophisticated child-like manner. But, rarely sad or angry, etc.

    Honestly, I think if I had been more attracted to her it would have worked out better, but I also think the flatness of emotion would have bothered me eventually and would have made things a little boring. She was a little too ordered and stable.
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    My girlfriend is an INTP like me.

    We have long philosophical and scientific discussions, sometimes forget to talk to each other when programming, and are highly affectionate and empathetic towards each other. We never fight about anything either, as we don't take things personally and whatever issue we have we care more about each other.

    Great relationship.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Synarch View Post
    I did not do anything particular to bring out her peachy side (...)
    Is it correctly understood that you believe you did?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Economica View Post
    Is it correctly understood that you believe you did?
    Yes. She was in love with me completely.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Synarch View Post
    Yes. She was in love with me completely.
    Not the same thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Economica View Post
    Not the same thing.
    OMG. Define peachy.
    "Create like a god, command like a king, work like a slave."

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    I want an ENTJ.

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