That's not me at all >_<
I choose who I have a crush on. It's pointless to like someone who you have no chance with. The only guys I was attracted to were the ones I felt a mind connection to. I don't like the experience of secretly liking someone and feeling emotionally vulnerable. At those times the guy could probably just use me or something.
I don't know I think the other INTJ response (sorry I forget your name!) was probably too typical of INTJ stereotypes... I don't mind getting flowers or treated nicely. Come on, every girl likes being treated like a queen. =P Of course that can't be the only thing in a relationship though. I don't know, maybe I'm more S or F than I think. I'm not as intense in the mind games way as what the INTJ is stereotyped as.
Anyways I'm attracted to intelligent yet not extremely nerdy guys. The cool kind of nerd, you know. I agree that I like the ENTP personality type. I like their outgoingness and how they can just "get" you better than the other types. I'd really like a guy that could get me involved in more things, always have interesting ideas and things to talk about, someone to challenge, someone to understand my sarcasm and play along with it, etc. That would be an awesome relationship and never get boring.
How about a nude chess game in which for each "taken" piece the loser must perform one of a series of prescribed erotic acts, which increase in intensity as the pieces increase in rank? The loss of a pawn might require some basic sexual performance or minor humiliation while the loss of the king or queen might culminate in a more drastic scenario. It should be set up in such a way where you would be torn between winning and losing.
"Create like a god, command like a king, work like a slave."
All types are fun and attractive for different reasons. INTJ's are fun because they're so frustrating and obtuse about practical social things.
Practical social things? Does not compute.
My INTP boyfriend is like alot like that. People watching us interact sometimes react to the things that come out of his mouth like, "really? You just said that to her?" But he's got this adorable cluelessness such that I can't even finish the withering look I intend to give him without laughing.
My impression (from observing my own behavior, and from reading INTJ analysis) is that INTJ social cluelessness is alot of times more frustrating than cute, because it's more of an impatience with social niceties. So I'm apt to flirt very directly and aggressively, or ungracefully exit a conversation that I can tell isn't going anywhere, or make incorrect assumptions about appropriateness. I think it's a sort of egocentric generalizing of my own personal social paradigms.