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    Default How to sustain a conversation that you have no interest in?

    Can anyone share "tips" on how to circumvent my true nature (intj). Finding boring people interesting. It seems this is the one thing I have trouble mastering. I have tried everything and it just gets worse....... My best buddy (istj) can do this effortlessly.....uncanny in his ability to connect with people. I think he is just selfishly lying to them but he doesnt see it like that.
    "A species of perfection and fantasy"......

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    Well there's no way to make you find boring people and conversation interesting, but you can create a more interesting conversation with yourself in your head while at the same time pleasantly nodding and exerting the low amount of cognitive dedication it takes to carry on with the boring person.

    Maybe you could try to figure out how to escape and avoid these kinds of conversations in the first place?

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    Lol, why would you ever want to sustain a conversation for which you have no interest in?

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    nod a few times, avoid direct eye contact, say "uh-huh" occasionally, roll your eyes, walk away while they're mid-sentence

    this has nothing to do with the OP, its just what my reaction would have been.

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    Wow, life suuuuurrrrre is hard for you smart folks, huh?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bella View Post
    Wow, life suuuuurrrrre is hard for you smart folks, huh?
    "The people can always be brought to the bidding of the leaders. That is easy. All you have to do is tell them that they are being attacked and denounce the peacemakers for lack of patriotism, and exposing the country to danger. It works the same in any country."
    Reichsfuhrer Herman Goering at the Nuremburg trials.

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    I suck at this too. I usually make an excuse to get away. Otherwise, I try to think of more interesting topics and milk the person for useful information, usually psychology or their field of study.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bella View Post
    Wow, life suuuuurrrrre is hard for you smart folks, huh?
    Thats not what I was saying....he said he looks for common ground. Something to embelish on...and I truly admire his patience. I can only do it for about 3 minutes....5 when I'm drunk. He can do it for hours...and is a master. Needless to say he gets laid more than Ron Jeremy. I'm no slouch (for an intj) but I get jealous. I can see HOW he does it...just cant do it.
    "A species of perfection and fantasy"......

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    I just engage in a completely different conversation with the person in my head.

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    Sometimes I say "I don't want to have this conversation. I hate small talk." Which isn't always true, it depends on the delivery. I love small talk with certain people.

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