Can anyone share "tips" on how to circumvent my true nature (intj). Finding boring people interesting. It seems this is the one thing I have trouble mastering. I have tried everything and it just gets worse.......
Being an INT you will be always having that trouble. That's written.
Heh. One's "passive" facial expression is very important, I'd recommend cultivating an ever-so-slight smile when in the presence of people who don't know you well (practice in front of a mirror, you shouldn't be too obvious about it or people will think you're about to go for their neck...brownie points to anyone who gets the reference). Then, just make the appropriate short comments/questions that allocate the bulk of the conversation to the other party (you will also need to put on a wider smile at appropriate times, such as when they tell an unfunny joke). People will think you are friendly and a good listener, thereby preventing others from forming hostile feelings towards you simply because you get more entertainment from the stuff going on in your head than the boring stuff coming out of their mouths. After a while, you can relax a bit because first impressions are long-lasting, enabling you to reveal your true personality to people you actually want to spend time with without the risk that they will become hostile before getting to the point where they appreciate you for who you are.
Last edited by lowtech redneck; 10-17-2008 at 04:11 AM.
Reason: needed clarification