It reads like a manual on how to manipulate others...the working title could have been "how to make people whitewash your fence...and enjoy doing it". I dont have the "used car salesman" temperament. I think premeditating my approach would be selfish and self-centered.
Maybe I could give it a shot....I was asking for advice after all.
I know the title "sounds" like that, but it's really just understanding how the people to whom it comes easy, do it.
It's a funny thing, y'know... I often encounter it. Someone asks how to do something, then a person comes along to whom it comes naturally, who's really good at it, and they describe how they do it... and then what happens?
That person is then accused of 'forcing' their ways of being on others, and the person who asked the question in the first place, well, they assert how just cos something works for that person it doesn't mean it works for THEM...
And all the while I'm thinking like weren't you asking how to do something that was, in the first place, admittedly outside your usual remit? Therefore, how do you think you're gonna do it without going outta your comfort zone??
And they're like all, 'Nooooo I wanted to know a way whereby I could replicate exactly (for eg) ENTP behaviour, with all the advantages thereof, whilst remaining ENTIRELY true to (insert type) behaviour!!'
Tsk. People. Glad I never was one.
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Ask lots of questions and express surprise at every third-or-fourth thing they say. Works like a charm.
Use this power only for evil.
Yeah, pretty much. I sort of fall in and out of attention, but I make sure, whenever I fall in, to ask a question or make a comment related to what they're saying at the moment. And I go, "Oh, uh huh" and make my eyes wide and stuff. I really don't think about this while I'm doing it either. It just happens.