And what type are you? My burning questions this morning.
Do you answer your phone?
I very rarely answer my phone. If I know I'm expecting a call (husband calls every night at x o'clock while working a certain shift), I'll pick it up, but generally I let it ring. I don't even go listen to the answering machine. And I wont get call display, because I'm not interested in seeing who's calling. Plus I don't want to have to deal with "you saw it was me, why didn't you answer".
And what type are you?
I live with an introvert who answers the phone. Even when he knows he shouldn't (i.e., when he knows his dad is calling and it's going to be a Bad Call). To him a ringing phone must be answered (he's an SJ btw). To me a ringing phone must be silenced - (by setting answering machine to two rings, or turning the ringer off). While I think introversion plays a part in this, I think there are other factors at work.
I hate being interupted. H-a-t-e-i-t. That's what the phone is to me, an interuption. I know I'm not alone.
I am an ENxP and i don't always answer my cellphone. Only my house phone. Mostly because I don't have time to answer and know that answering machines are there for this. I mostly don't answer when I "know" or think i know, why the person calls me. I also don't regularly check my answering machine at home and miss messages and i also don't always read my mail when i know it's uninteresting (like banks stuffs. i check my bank account on internet anyway.) I leave my mail somewhere unopenened and when there are too many unopened, i open it. Am I the only one doing this?
Wow, you guys are almost unanimously anti-phone. Not me.
I enjoy a conversation just for the conversation itself, which sometimes even reminds me of things I would have forgotten otherwise, as I'm telling somebody about my situation or hearing about theirs.
During the day, I often have to make sure I don't miss the calls ( I keep hearing it ring while I'm in the shower, even though it usually isn't ) because I often make my living by being the guy who has to get through to well screened executives. Or I'm doing some other sales related thing, or Recruiting. In these "hunter" positions, one does not often have the luxury of getting right through to someone and getting a straight answer from them. You have to leave a provocative message and hope they call you back. If they do call, maybe days or weeks later, they won't let it ring long before giving up, since my name was unfamiliar to them to begin with. Sometimes they will even return these calls at night ! Then I have to quickly remember what I was calling this particular person for, out of the many names of people on the docket in recent weeks ! That's one of the tougher parts of it.
In my personal life, I am less forgiving of tentativity, because I hear it all day long from prospects.
I'm typically totally understanding of people telling me "Hey, I gotta go" if the two of us are on the phone. It strikes me that a lot of y'all don't want to tell people that, which is one reason why you don't want to get something started with them in the first place.
Sometimes I will tell people to "call back in so and so many minutes/hours" if I'm tied up, or ask if/when I can call them back, since it was me who was occupied, and I therefore feel the ball is in my court now, so to speak.
But I like talking to my friends, and so I'll take calls when I'm getting ready to eat dinner, even, sometimes. I'll tell them in those cases, that I'm going to be less talkative than normal, since I'm going to have my mouth full a good bit of the time, and they'll have to do the lion's share of the conversation.
Meeting people in person is even better, but not always worth the waaay extra effort to make it happen, unless it is someone who you don't get to see ( or even interact with ) often. If you already know what they look like, and how they would probably look while responding, with the body language, it is especially an extra effort. Having said that, however, I still do enjoy hanging out in person with people. I'm glad that I don't have to personally meet with every person that I am dealing with professionally, though. I can sit there in my underwear, and still talk serious biz, if I want to, and they can feel free to imagine me in a suit and tie, if that's what floats their boat.
I've never gotten round to getting one of those headphone/earphone harnesses so that I can just continue doing things while talking. That would free me up even more, I guess; but I wouldn't be giving them my full attention, which I often think is warranted. It would actually be more intrusive ( for me ) to have to type on a keypad if I was trying to multi-task, than it would be to speak to someone.
The only thing that I like better about email is:
( 1. ) I can do it at my convenience
( 2. ) I can do it and rearrange it if I don't like what seems to be shaping up, prior to sending it.
( 3. ) I can do it without being interrupted.
Those are good things, for sure, but there is a trade-off in missing the all important "tone", and hearing hesitance before or during an answer etc. Contrastingly, it's easy to mistake one tone for something else in text/email, even with emoticons, especially with people who think it's uncool to use them. Mistakes like that can cause problems.
With a voice there are sooo many nuances, so that you are waaay closer to understanding what the person means, even if it is not always what they are saying.
Having said that, however, apparently I do sometimes miss "hints' that we should start winding up the conversation. ( I've told people not to be subtle, just in case, but apparently they can't handle just telling me directly that they want to get going. )
Sometimes I'll hear about it later, in 20/20 hindsight that "we spent hours on the phone last week" as though it's like indulging in chocolate syrup or otherwise sinful. I'll be thinking "And?"
With some people it is just that they are hung up on goodbyes, With others, I think they were actually having as much fun with the conversation as me at the time, but they had a guilt attack, after the fact, for "enjoying themselves" ( read that in hindsight as "wasting time" ), and so they would like to lay the entire "blame" of the matter on me ! Then we'll be talking about it perhaps, and they'll forget they were/are peeved and start enjoying themselves again, often asking questions that they know cannot be tersely answered, even as we are both supposed to be "wrapping things up". Hah. It takes two to tango !!
Type = XNXP, I think. Heh.
Last edited by kuranes; 11-12-2008 at 09:35 PM.
"The people can always be brought to the bidding of the leaders. That is easy. All you have to do is tell them that they are being attacked and denounce the peacemakers for lack of patriotism, and exposing the country to danger. It works the same in any country."
Reichsfuhrer Herman Goering at the Nuremburg trials.
Do you answer your phone?
Nuhu, never! I hate that Thing. And actually, mostly I forget we even have it! Unless it will rrrrrring, and mostly it does during very stupid Times, like when eating, doing Something very important or SLEEPING! Gee! Some People have weird Timing.
I dun listen to the Answering-Machine, I dun really check the Display or the "missed Call List"...Nothing. I am just not interested. People who need to reach me know other Ways (IM, Forum, Mail, PM, whatever). I dun like to talk on the Phone, really not. It's just sit and do Nothing. There, said it. When chatting I can at least do other Things meanwhile, and that's what I like more.
What type are you?
Can you guess? Yep, INTJ, you got it. Gratz. Here are some Cookies.
BWT, my odd Roommate always yells at me for not answering the Phone. But really, I dun give a Crap. "My" People already know anyways that they can't reach me there. Even my Cell is shut off all the Time. It is really only an Emergency Thing. Nothing more.
Rule #1: Driver picks the music. Shotgun shuts his cakehole.
I usually answer it to just to be respectful and to get it done. If someone dialed the wrong number, then at least they'll know they've got the wrong number. If it's someone I know and I don't want to talk because I'm not in the mood or I'm busy, then I'll just say so and suggest another time for them. I don't really like talking on the phone, though. It makes me feel stuck.
"When a resolute young fellow steps up the great bully, the world, and takes him boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find that it comes off in his hand, and that it was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Rarely. I dislike the phone. I don't like texting either for that matter. Is this unusual for an ENFP? I primarily use it for taking pictures when my real camera is not available, alarm and to check the time.
You can't always do it right, you can always do what's left.
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