[MBTI General] NT-NF pairing

[laintpe]

I do like the lightheartedness of NFs, but at times I wish they came with helmets and a full suit of armor (emotionally speaking).

 

[Rangler]

I've found I really enjoy most INFPs and ENFPs. I've dated an ENFP and, generally, I like the NT-NF pairing. I feel free to be myself without pretense around NFs.

On a side note, I can understand the attraction to other NT types except ENTJs. If someone said they think dating an ENTJ would be fun, I would think they were crazy. I personally doubt if we have a match because we are so intense.

 

[Lasting_Pain]

For some strange reason, I can sense an NF. Like I get this awkward feeling that I don't usually get when I talk to a SP or SJ.

 

[velourial]

I've had romantic chemistry with more than a few ENFJs. I feel like their Jness makes up for their delicacy. We complement each other well. There's just something about emotionally available, responsible men that can still hold their own with me... especially if they take a J approach to relationships, treating me with the same kind of strategy with which they'd approach the stock market...

For friendships, I've had good luck with all NF types, but some ENFPs have gotten on my nerves (all that EMO! UGH!). We either have great chemistry right away that degenerates OR an initial annoyance that turns into a great friendship. It's gotten better as I've gotten more mature.

Friendships with INFPs can be very tender and intimate. I can't imagine being in a monogamous romantic relationship with one. That would just be too TOO much...

 

[Ardea]

It's a good balance.

 

[Lasting_Pain]

INFPs are intense. I do not know what would happen if I was alone with one.

 

[Rangler]

INFPs are intense. I do not know what would happen if I was alone with one.

Babies.

 

[simulatedworld]

NFs are complimentary for NTs. I know most rationals are looking for mindmates, but an NF is a better bet for getting an NT out of their shell.

Wouldn't that mainly be a problem for INTs? As an ENT I'm definitely looking for a "mindmate"; I've dated some NFs that came close but they do have some tendencies that start to get grating.

 

[Lasting_Pain]

Babies.

I was thinking more on the line of cookies but babies are cool too!

 

[ceecee]

J-J or J-P?

J-J

 

[jenocyde]

I've had romantic chemistry with more than a few ENFJs. I feel like their Jness makes up for their delicacy. We complement each other well. There's just something about emotionally available, responsible men that can still hold their own with me... especially if they take a J approach to relationships, treating me with the same kind of strategy with which they'd approach the stock market...

For friendships, I've had good luck with all NF types, but some ENFPs have gotten on my nerves (all that EMO! UGH!). We either have great chemistry right away that degenerates OR an initial annoyance that turns into a great friendship. It's gotten better as I've gotten more mature.

Friendships with INFPs can be very tender and intimate. I can't imagine being in a monogamous romantic relationship with one. That would just be too TOO much...

I feel the same way about ENFPs. I've never dated an ENFJ but now you've sparked my interest.

 

[A Schnitzel]

For some strange reason, I can sense an NF. Like I get this awkward feeling that I don't usually get when I talk to a SP or SJ.

Yeah they are pretty awkward alright.

 

[Lasting_Pain]

Yeah they are pretty awkward alright.

But it is a good thing though, although it makes me uncomfortable, I welcome its presence.

 

[Ulaes]

Fe = danger ahead

 

[Lasting_Pain]

Fe = danger ahead

lovable danger.

 

[marmandahalf]

lovable danger.

intriguing danger.

 

[Totenkindly]

Wouldn't that mainly be a problem for INTs? As an ENT I'm definitely looking for a "mindmate"; I've dated some NFs that came close but they do have some tendencies that start to get grating.

Gonna have to go with "Depends On The Specific NT in Question" for $500, Wink!

..... seriously, we're all deviants from the stereotype in some way. So it depends on our particular differences. I can handle low-key extroverts and can benefit, but it quickly could get on my nerves... sociable introverts might work better for me.

In general, though, I just know that "N" is good. I have some good S friends, but too firmly anchored in reality -- I like someone imaginative but still realistic. NFs definitely have the first part down, sometimes the second isn't there. (Then again, NTs can be a pain in the butt sometimes too, if their N is weak.)

 

[Salomé]

There's just something about emotionally available, responsible men that can still hold their own with me... especially if they take a J approach to relationships, treating me with the same kind of strategy with which they'd approach the stock market...

You had me until the bit about the stock market....

 

[Aleph-One]

(Then again, NTs can be a pain in the butt sometimes too, if their N is weak.)

That's true -- they seem to inherit the worst traits of both the S and the N without getting many of the benefits of either.

 

[mortabunt]

NF's aren't bad. I rather like one of them myself. Too bad he's a dude and we're both straight. I could picture myself with a more extraverted one though. The only flaw is that they insist that there are no problems, and that they understate the ones they acknowledge.