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    If someone says to you: "How are you?" can you respond properly? I hate when someone says that question. Why?
    Because I am not able to answer properly. And I have seen this problem many time with all people , especially with loving ones (romantic way )
    I just stack in thinking procession and then just say "Fine." even I don't feel 100% fine.
    I can't express what I feel with words so I just say "Fine" because I am healthy and I feel fine , but deep down not very much and I don't know how to say that...
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    People I am close to know better than to ask this, or if they do ask, they really want to know and I am likely to be willing to discuss what is going on in my life. For all others, I have a stock response: "busy". Nearly always true, and noncommittal.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Norexan View Post
    If someone says to you: "How are you?" can you respond properly? I hate when someone says that question. Why?
    Because I am not able to answer properly. And I have seen this problem many time with all people , especially with loving ones (romantic way )
    I just stack in thinking procession and then just say "Fine." even I don't feel 100% fine.
    I can't express what I feel with words so I just say "Fine" because I am healthy and I feel fine , but deep down not very much and I don't know how to say that...
    I can use poems but no matter what happened to me all of them are full of sadness and not so "standard romantic" because they are very very strange...
    I don't mind being asked how I am. I see it as a brief and friendly greeting for people of few words. Just say, "fine," and smile. That's what I do. No poetry necessary.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Strawberry Boots View Post
    I don't mind if you ask me how I am. I see it as a brief and friendly greeting for people of few words. Just say, "fine," and smile. That's what I do.
    "Good morning [name]" is a greeting. "How are you?" is an empty social ritual, unless you know the other person well enough to embark on an actual discussion of how they, and you, are doing.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Coriolis View Post
    "Good morning [name]" is a greeting. "How are you?" is an empty social ritual, unless you know the other person well enough to embark on an actual discussion of how they, and you, are doing.
    I understand and agree. I'm speaking of the 'greater' meaning. For example, some people will ask in passing, "How are you?"... but don't standby for the answer, so I translate that as "Howdy!" Thus, my reply, "Howdy!"

    If the question is meaningful, I'll try to give a meaningful reply.

    Either way, it's alright with me. When I'm busy, like you, I don't like to talk much, but I'll try to make time for people I care about if I sense it's important for them to know how I'm doing.

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    It's a common courtesy, to say "okay/fine/doing well/etc". If it's any comfort, it means the person asking cares about you.

    And that's a wonderful feeling, even if you don't answer truthfully - you have someone there to support you, and so on. On your own terms at a later time.
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    I know the person care about me but what if that person is someone who you love and you are deeply be hurt? I can't answer. I can't express my feelings. I will always say fine if I am healthy. I am such a robot sometimes.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Coriolis View Post
    People I am close to know better than to ask this, or if they do ask, they really want to know and I am likely to be willing to discuss what is going on in my life. For all others, I have a stock response: "busy". Nearly always true, and noncommittal.
    I have the same stock, noncommittal response. "Busy" implies that I am well enough as I am still getting my work done, but does not invite further inquiry.

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    LOL I'm probably going to be in the minority here and say that I love it when people ask me how I am.

    I take it as:
    1. This person wants to talk to me.
    2. This person notices I exist.
    3. This person isn't mad at me (because I'm very scared of people being mad at me).
    4. This person is treating me like I'm a person instead of a thing.
    5. This person cares about me (depending on who is asking and their tone).

    I don't really have a problem with answering, either. If I'm not good, I'll just be like "ohhh, stressed ..." or "oh, tired," or say, "well, still kicking!" in a lighthearted, enthusiastic way.
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    I work in retail so I kind of have to ask how everyone's doing and say "good" or "hanging in there" every time someone asks me in return
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