Plus, the banter.
Although, ^ is true. The INTJ is more passive, b/w us, in letting what he 'really feels' known. He'll say it in every way, including actions, without saying the actual words. And, for me, it becomes about playing dumb because there's this need in me to get the INTJ to own up to it/admit it. He gets frustrated but still...won't say it. It gets unhealthy at times. Tertiary F colliding.but they also have trouble sharing their interiors at times. It seems to take a serious amount of stress for them to open up. And they seem to hunker down a lot more than say an INFJ.
We also get each other. And, there's a great mind-mate connection. We also bond over sarcasm and the value of logic.
We see ourselves as the precise opposite of one another. It's frustrating yet intriguing at the same time.
Him: Black or white, there are no grays.
Me: To get from either white to black, or black to white...one has to travel in shades of gray. Therefore, it must exist, if black and white does.
- I am way too 'chaotic', random....it can be charming to the INTJ and in equal parts, quite frustrating at other times.
- He is more directive while I am informative and there's clashes in that.
- My horrible Fi makes him
- We have our vulnerabilities as the other's strength and there's sometimes issues with that.
- My optimism against his pessimism
- I accuse him of being patronizing, while he accuses me of 'never taking anything seriously'
- Although I am the extravert, my need for independence/alone time/solitude bugs him more than his solitude bugs me. He feels me creating a 'distance'...which I think is illusionary because when I'm with someone, a situation, there's almost a bubbling over of enthusiam from me, so that when I retreat, it's a much more STARK change than when he retreats.