So. Let me start. Im not the type to easily fall for girls. I rarely meet a girl I like. Much less someone where the chemistry is right. Im very much a rationalistic and logic orientated guy. To the point where my feeling ability, outside of causes that really move me is stunted. I just suck with empathy and social relationships in general. Even though stuff that is personal can have a great affect on me privately. My ability to socialize is generally superficial at best. I have a tendency to be on the asocial side.
I meet this chick online. We talked for a little. But we instantly connected. The chemistry was perfect. She wasnt super attractive physically. But her personality, her interests, her giftedness in intelligence just sweept me away. Her blunt, cynical, goofy, wild, humourous, emotionally detached and assertive personality was totally exciting. I dont normally get stuck on people. And my interest rapidly fades if they're boring(99% of those i meet, irl or online). But this chick just lit me on fire. We stayed up talking all nights. We really meshed together.
But to get to the meat of the problem. She is an INTJ and by her own admission she is asocial and quite independent and socially awkward(like myself but perhaps more extreme). She has a history of dating bulldog type guys. And while im not a wuss, im also not the type of guy who goes around looking for fights. I think the fact that I do give the impression of being aggresive and tough is what attracted her in the first place. I think I made the mistake of fawning and being a bit mushy over her too much. And i was a bit straight forward. Giving her lots of compliments. Which made me seem a bit off. To me this comes from my general social awkwardness and not entirely having a social habit and just generally ADD and sleep deprivation. And rather to show my liking her alot rather than a place of dishonesty or intented weirdness. Im just painfully blunt and im just bad at dealing with emotions when it comes to other humans. And i dont know how to express liking someone in a swift and tactful manner.
She hasnt responded for almost a week now. She said it was because of phone issues. I took it for granted. But im beginning to think she might have just been messing with my head to ne entertained or lost interest, or is she just taking space? Bear in mind. I really am terrible with this type of stuff.
For you misanthrophic INTJs who have those traits. Did i really blow it?