I meant that extraverted functions are more visible than intraverted functions, just by their very nature. I meant that It's a lot easier to see a preference for intuition if the xNxx is an xNxP (because it's extraverted) just like it's a lot easier to see a preference for task-oriented thinking if the xxTx preference is xxTJ (because it's extraverted).
I was attempting to point out that the T-preference you dislike in INTJs is external and visible and part of their way of interacting with the outside world, and INTPs' T preference is internal, so you not seeing that means that you don't know any INTPs very well to get to their inside world of Ti.
Our Ni inside world/way of being as INTJs is analogous to the INTPs outside world/way of interacting with Ne. There are distinct differences, but it's fair to say that the INTJs will become less rigid and more playful the more you get to know them, and INTPs will become less playful and more rigid the more you get to know them. I don't mean rigid in any sort of pejorative term, only illustrating the task-as-opposed-to people oriented xxTx preference as being impersonal.
What did YOU mean by your responses? It appears we were talking past each other.