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    Will you try to promote NTness in your children?
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    A very tough question.
    Knowing I gave my parents a hard time, as an NT-child, having such a kid myself is not something I look forward to. My kids give me the space to get in touch with my suppressed F-side.
    But then again, I like being an NT a lot, and I wish my kids all the benefits and joys it brought me.
    I guess, by just being there, I will promote it enough, so I won't make any extra efforts...

    Tnx for the question.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mippus View Post
    I guess, by just being there, I will promote it enough, so I won't make any extra efforts...
    Would your presence involve challenging the ideas of your children and stopping them from developing a more dogmatic approach to thought?

    I would never expect or support the suppression of a feeling instinct in a child, but I think I would have a hard time not pushing my kids to be more intuitive.
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    I wouldn't care less, being NT is no better than being any other temperament.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    I wouldn't care less, being NT is no better than being any other temperament.
    That's absolutely ridiculous.

    Are you saying you will take no part in the development of your children?

    Or will you reinforce whatever their first impulses are?

    Being NT might not be "better" than any other temperament, but it's still your temperament and one that you must value somehow.
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    Quote Originally Posted by murkrow View Post
    That's absolutely ridiculous.

    Are you saying you will take no part in the development of your children?

    Or will you reinforce whatever their first impulses are?
    The latter; if my children were not to show any "NT" inclination and were not to care about intellectual topics I would not feel any discontent.
    Of course, if the opposite situation were to happen, he'd be welcomed to ask me questions and I'd be willing to give him access to the information sources I've found and consider worthy.
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    my father did and it worked out well for me. as a child i had a respect for intelligence and intellectual pursuits. i do consider myself intelligent. i could've been driven away if dad was a militant J like my mother though. he's an easy going P and so am i. that made it easier to communicate. being with him was therefore not a chore, but a pleasure, and the NT stuff came naturally. granted, i am not an NT, but i still have that respect for logic and intelligence.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    The latter; if my children were not to show any "NT" inclination and were not to care about intellectual topics I would not feel any discontent.
    Of course, if the opposite situation were to happen, he'd be welcomed to ask me questions and I'd be willing to give him access to the information sources I've found and consider worthy.
    What role do you have as a parent, never one of guidance?

    If your child were to begin to develop an irrational or self destructive ideology what would you do?
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    Quote Originally Posted by murkrow View Post
    What role do you have as a parent, never one of guidance?

    If your child were to begin to develop an irrational or self destructive ideology what would you do?
    Trying to turn your kid into an NT would likely make them develop an irrational or self-destructive ideology if that's not how they're naturally wired.

    FDG has the right idea. It's best to support whatever the child's natural gifts are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    The latter; if my children were not to show any "NT" inclination and were not to care about intellectual topics I would not feel any discontent..
    I totally agree, let the child be what the child is and stop placing one type over another in superiority. Parents influence their children, but they need to allow them the persoanl freedom to develop into themselves and not beomce mini me's. Perahps a read of Keirseys section on Pygmailon syndrom may be helpful at explain how disctructive the mini me approach can be

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