Well, I just got home from a family gathering and would like to expose a few of the MB variables that irritated me tonight. I'm not sure if other INTJs share the same view but here it is.
Let's start with E. My grandma (E*FP) and aunt (E*FJ) are both Es to an overwhelming degree. My grandma in particular never stops talking and will go into 20(30?) minute story-telling sililoquys at times. In effect, it takes work just to listen to her sometimes. Basically, as I entered this particular environment (my dad's house which isn't very big) I shook hands and kissed every person I walked passed as I made my way from the front door to the kitchen. Within seconds of entering the house I was bombarded with questions, etc. In particular, my sensor-literal aunt asks if I would like anything to eat and I respond absent-mindedly "no I had some pizza on the way here to tie me off for a bit". Then she starts correcting me saying "tide me over" and I said "you're right and smiled" and continued what I was physically doing (getting coke from the fridge) and then she commented again on how "atleast her kids think she's funny".
Then my cousin asks how university is going and my stupid grandma chuckles in her British (I was born with a better pot to piss in) condescending laugh. This was just plain rude. To be sure, I'm not harping on sensors or extraverts in this case, but people who cannot be happy or proud of others. I am always quiet around this side of the family because they have a hidden contempt for what I'm trying to do in life. I am sorry that my wanting to get into a prestigeous law school makes you feel shitty about your situation - it's not my problem.
Moreover, a few days before this my grandma made dinner and I was just trying to be polite by saying "thanks grandma this looks really great" before eating it and she responds seriously "sometimes you have to taste things before making judgements" to which I gave a stale facial expression. The moment I let my guard down and just try to be a nice person this is the kind of bullshit I have to deal with. But when I keep my guard up, the EFs will try to pick at me to get an emotional response.