What do you advocate instead? Do you share your own personal information freely with others, however well or little you know them? Do you see no place for privacy or simple restraint in interpersonal sharing?
For some of us, quality is much more important than quantity, and being very selective in sharing personal information serves as a valuable and even necessary filter.
[MENTION=20829]Hard[/MENTION] believes very much in 'saying what you mean, and meaning what you say'. I totally agree with that idea. I can't stand it when people don't speak plainly, or are purposely cryptic.
But there's a difference between plain-spoken and outspoken. I am plain-spoken, but I'm definitely not outspoken.
I can see from your viewpoint how it must be frustrating for extroverts losing their patience for introverts being opposing to socializing however, I don't feel comfortable with other people. I don't see it needless for extroverts surrounding themselves with people because they don't like being around alone.
What BadOctopus said. What truly bothers me is people being
needlessly crypic, indirect, and metaphorical with their speaking, communicating, and sharing. But being heavily taciturn bothers me as well.
I want to make clear that there isn't anything wrong with being enigmatic, reserved, and related (unless the person is doing it to annoy, bother, or harm others with intention). It's just something that I have a difficult time with. My primary method of connecting with someone, getting to know them, and forging some sort of relationship (friendship, professional, etc.) is through conversation. I'm pretty candid and share quite a bit about myself with others if they see to take some sort of interest. If others don't like it then I ease back. I won't really get it (I mean, I get it, but I don't "get" it), but I let it go. Lack of talking and communicating ones thoughts is just frustrating and an alien concept to me. As I said, I totally respect and understand this in others. I just simply don't relate.
What
really gets to me though is when requested to be clear, honest, or straightforward because there is an inability to understand them, and the individual refuses. I put a ton of effort into communication (granted it's largely automatic at this point), and I feel others should honor that. If I don't have to be around the person I'll leave them be and that will be the end of it. If I have to interact and or work with them though, there is going to be problems.
Interestingly, even though I am an extrovert I am fine with being alone. It doesn't consciously bother me at all, but it does unconsciously. I've learned over the years though that it does get to me somewhat quickly and can be rather problematic (at this point I can see the effects of it in myself. Before I couldn't).
