first, i dont always like being in charge. its a lot of work. I prefer to advise the one in control, and let them know when things are likely heading in a direction that is different than their origional intent. I would like to think that i am considerately careful. Nitpicking about all of the minutae means their ears are worn out for when something really needs to be pointed out.
when i am leading something, i like to do my main planning in private. i send folks info, let them go over it if they want and then meet up. i get extreemly uncomfortable when everyone around is a yess sayer. to the extent that i will often try to keep one person who is harder to convince, someone not quick to jump on the bandwagon, on my team/aware of whats going on. Does it mean i execute all my plans perfectly and never have personality (and personal) clashes with said indoviduals? of course not. i like being told no and this wont work nearly as much as the next person.
Which is i suppose, why i like to know rules and the framework for what to do when things get out of hand ....before they actually get out of and. knowing who my boses are above me, and who is under me, and the limits of my power, and the importance of the goal and what the objectives are, mean that when things get ugly, its damages are more likely to be minimized. i like to see that everything is as solid as can be so that when a crack appears, the team is less likely to automatically ouy both baby and bathwater. Means eating humble pie a few times, but if in the end the objective is reached....mission accomplished. by that i mean, when i was young, my natural tendency was to say reaching the goal at all coats is the objective. these days i continually reason to myself that when I run over people and their ideas, the statistical probability of what i am trying to accomplish lasting (and the likelyhood that another of my ideas is implemented by these same individuals) gets greatly diminished.